How To Eat Pussy Like An Absolute Champ (Best Techniques)

How do you eat pussy like an absolute champ? To have her toes curling and have her screaming in ecstasy and orgasming over and over and over again.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator. And one of my favorite things to do in this world is to eat pussy.

And there’s many things that I’ve learned over the years that can make you incredible at giving pleasure to women in this way. And also so you can avoid some of the mistakes that many guys make that just don’t really feel good for most women.

Before we get into it, let me just say that every single woman is different and what they like is going to be different. There’s no one technique that’s going to make every woman orgasm the same way every single time. Every person’s orgasm is as unique as they are.

And so while in this article I’m going to share with you a lot of tips and tricks and techniques that work for most women, just know that ultimately, whatever your partner likes, that’s what you’re going to need to do.

So having good communication with your partner and finding out what they like is really important. But going into the experience with a bunch of things to try will allow you to work out what they really like.

1. Eat Pussy With Enthusiasm

If you go into it and you love doing it and you really want to do it, that’s going to show. They’re going to feel that and they’re going to enjoy the experience so much more.

I would so much rather get a blowjob from a girl whose technique maybe isn’t the best, but she absolutely loves it. She just wants to go down on me. She gets off on it versus a girl whose technique is really good, but you can tell that she just doesn’t want to be doing it.

So if you want to be great at eating pussy, then you need to think about it as an overall experience for her. Not just the techniques and the physical sensations that you’re going to do with your mouth and your tongue, but the overall emotional experience that she’s going to have.

And one of the best ways to create an incredible emotional experience is by going in there with enthusiasm.

2. Make Sure She’s Turned On First

A big mistake that we often make (and honestly, I still make, because I get too excited) is you go in there too quickly and too fast.

Just like how a penis gets more blood as it’s more aroused, the same is true for a woman’s vulva. She has as much erectile tissue as you do. And as she gets more aroused, blood is going to flow into the area, which is going to make everything feel so much better.

And so before you go down there and give her your tantalizing tongue techniques on the clitoris, you first want to arouse her.

This can be getting her aroused unrelated to touching her vulva, things like intimacy and kissing and cuddling and massage. Or it can also be with the vulva with starting slow.

3. Tease Her In The Beginning

Yes, sometimes she’s really aroused and wants you so badly, you can just get down to business. But more often than not, she’s going to be extremely grateful if you can tease her a little bit.

Rather than going straight in for the vulva, slowly work your way down, kissing her neck and her breasts and her stomach. You can even kiss up and down her thighs or touch her thighs and her body with your hands.

Then when it comes to her vulva, you can kiss down the thigh like you’re going for the vulva. And then we’ll skip over it and go back up the other thigh. Anticipation is one of the biggest tools that you have.

And then you can go down there to her vulva. And instead of just licking the clit straight away, you can start by lightly brushing the outer lips of her vulva with your tongue. Or if you eventually do go for the middle of her vulva, just lick very lightly with your tongue up to the clit.

Work your way up to her, tease her and build that anticipation. And when she starts rocking her hips and moving them or trying to pull you into her, you know that she wants you so badly to lick her that when you finally do, it’s going to feel so much better than if you just went in there straight away.

4. Know The Pleasure Anatomy Of The Vulva

Learn where things are. Honestly, it’s not that difficult.

Simply go onto Google and type in vulva anatomy or vulva diagram and learn where the vaginal opening is, where the outer lips are, and most importantly, learn where the clitoris is. It’s not difficult to find, okay?

If we imagine the shape of her vulva, down the bottom is her vaginal opening, further down will be her anus, and what you’ll notice is that women have these inner lips which can be large or they can be small, but they work their way up from the vaginal opening and then they’ll actually meet together, and just above where they meet is where you’re going to find the head of the clitoris.

Now, the head of the clitoris is often covered by the clitoral hood, kind of like the foreskin on a male, but the clitoris is the most sensitive spot on a woman’s body and it’s probably where you’re going to spend most of the time when you’re eating pussy.

So, learning how to find it is extremely important and I’ve got a full article on exactly how to find the clit. If you want a more detailed guide, go ahead and check that out.

A big mistake a lot of guys make is they just lick all over the vulva and they’re not really paying attention to the spots that are pleasurable for her. You don’t want to be doing this.

You want to know exactly what feels good so you can work your way up to it and then when you find what feels good, you can do the techniques that your partner really likes and can bring them to orgasm.

5. Compliment Her

Tell her that her pussy looks great. It smells great. It tastes great.

So many women are nervous about you having your face down there. They’re nervous about how they look, how they smell, how they taste, especially if it’s been a long day, they’re going to be nervous about whether they’re clean or dirty down there and if they’re stuck up in their head worrying about that, they’re not going to be aware of the things that you’re doing down there and how good it feels.

So, you want to make sure that you alleviate that anxiety in their mind. Let them know how much you absolutely love their pussy.

You can say things like, “Oh my god, I can’t wait to lick you,” and when you’re down there, you can make noises like “Mmm” and you can tell her, “Oh my god, you taste so good” or “Your pussy looks so beautiful” or “You smell amazing” or you can even finger your partner and then pull your finger out and if you like, you can smell your finger or lick your finger.

Some women might get a little bit weird about this, but it can also be very sexy and arousing for them because you’re showing them that you being down there turns you on. That allows them to just relax because they know that you’re having a really good time.

So now that you’re down there and you’ve complimented her and you know the vulva, let’s talk about techniques.

6. Start With The Flat Tongue

To do the flat tongue, it’s exactly like it sounds. Simply make your tongue as flat as possible and lick up her vulva.

I like to start on the outer lips, so I’ll make my tongue really flat and I’ll lick the outer lips of her vulva and then eventually starting at the vaginal opening, again with that flat tongue, I’m licking from the vagina up towards the clitoris, brushing my tongue over the clitoris, which is going to feel really good for her.

I’ll then move away from the vulva, come back down to the vaginal opening and start again. So I’m not licking up and down at the same time. I’m licking up, coming off, going back down, starting at the bottom and licking up again.

And honestly, I’m yet to find a woman who doesn’t like this technique and it’s such a great technique for warming her up in the beginning.

A big mistake that a lot of guys make is they’ll go down there, they’ll go straight for the clit and flick with a pointed tongue, like a sharp hard tongue really quickly. Now this can feel really good for her, but when she’s fully aroused and when she’s close to orgasm, generally not so much directly in the beginning if she’s not already aroused.

The flat tongue can work so well because it builds her up and gets her aroused, it feels really good and then you can work up to those more vigorous techniques.

7. Pay More Attention To The Clitoris

The clitoris is the most sensitive part of her body and is most likely the way that you’re going to bring her to orgasm with oral sex.

I personally like to start slow on the clitoris and I like to use the middle part of my tongue rather than the tip of my tongue in the beginning. So I’ll find the clitoris with my tongue and I’ll begin rubbing it with that middle part of my tongue in little circles or maybe up and down or left and right.

This isn’t the vigorous flicking that you might see in porn. This is just really small slow movements over her clitoris.

Often I’ll start with quite a light pressure and then if I want to build up the intensity, instead of building up the speed straight away, I’ll actually add pressure. So I’ll continue to go slow, but I’ll apply more pressure to the clitoris so that it feels more intense for her.

Then as she gets more and more revved up and closer to orgasm, then I can add more speed onto it to bring her closer to orgasm or to get her to have an orgasm.

And if you want to learn some of the best techniques to give women oral orgasms, then I do have a free tutorial over on my website. In that video, I teach you some of the best techniques and how you can give some women an orgasm in as little as five seconds if you know what you’re doing.

Once you’ve really warmed up the clitoris and once you’ve really amped up her pleasure and she’s getting closer to orgasm, yes, then you can shift to the techniques that you’ve likely seen in porn, which is where you’re flicking the clit with your tongue either side to side or up and down.

This can feel really good for her, but it can also get overwhelming or it can become numb if you continue to do the same thing for too long. However, when she’s close to orgasm, you actually want to keep a consistent rhythm.

So I do like the technique that Erik Everhard, the porn star, teaches, which he calls the T-cross, which is where you’re flicking up and down, but every now and then you add in some side to side and then continue flicking up and down, add a little bit of side to side, up and down whilst keeping the same rhythm.

So this way you’re mixing things up enough that she’s not getting numb or hopefully not getting oversensitized, but you’re keeping the same rhythm which can help bring her to orgasm.

8. Suck On The Clitoris

Many women love this sensation and there’s actually toys out there that are designed to mimic this sensation with air pulses. There’s a couple of different ways you can do it and depending on your partner will depend on which ones that she likes.

One thing you can do is simply isolate the head of the clitoris itself, making your mouth really small, draw that into your mouth and suck and release that clitoris almost like you’re sucking a little penis. You can do this slow or you can do this fast and many women really love this.

Another thing that you can do is draw the clitoris up into your mouth and then do similar tongue techniques to what you were doing before, but with the clitoris on the inside of your mouth. This pressure is going to draw more blood into the clitoris and it’s also going to allow you to hold it in place so you can stimulate it more directly.

And the other thing that you can do is draw in the clitoris and the surrounding areas. So the hood of the clitoris, the shaft of the clitoris, maybe even some of the outer lips around the area as well. You can have all of that in your mouth and then you can move your tongue around in there as well to pleasure her.

Now with clitoris sucking techniques, you do need to check in with your partner and get feedback from them because some things can feel really good, but sometimes if you’re sucking too much or you’re sucking the wrong parts of her, it can pull on the skin and make it a bit tight and be uncomfortable for her.

So she might like some forms of sucking, but not others. And this is where you’ll want to experiment and communicate with your partner to find out what she likes.

9. Don’t Neglect Using Your Fingers

Many women absolutely love it if you go ahead and finger her at the same time that you’re giving her oral sex.

You can do this at any point. You can do this in the beginning in quite a slow massage-like way to begin to warm her up. Or sometimes I actually like to save the finger for the end as an added bonus when she gets closer to orgasm.

So I’ll do what I can to really ramp her up and get her closer to orgasm. And then to really push her over to the edge, I save the finger till the end, I’ll put the finger inside her and I’ll stimulate the G-spot in a similar rhythm to the way that I’m stimulating the clitoris and this combination of G-spot stimulation and stimulating the clitoris at the same time can then push her over the edge into orgasm.

And this is the exact technique that I teach in more detail in my free tutorial on how to give women amazing oral orgasms.

10. Think Of Different Stages

You’ve got the beginning where you’re warming her up and getting her aroused using techniques like the flat tongue or maybe using the middle of your tongue to stimulate her clit in a soft and gentle way. In this phase, you’re really just getting her relaxed so she can enjoy the pleasure that’s about to come21024.

Then you’ve got the build up phase where you are adding a bit more pressure, maybe a bit more speed and you’re building her up so that her pleasure is climbing higher and higher, getting closer to orgasm.

This is the phase that you’re going to spend most of your time and through this phase, you don’t want to be doing the same thing the entire time. This can get boring for her, the area can become numb or it can become oversensitive.

So during this build up phase, you want to take her through a lot of different experiences and use a variety of different techniques.

I like to think of it as taking her through waves of pleasure so I might build her up a bit and then I’ll go back down and do something that’s not as stimulating. Then I’ll build her up again and depending on how aroused she is, maybe I’ll push her to orgasm or maybe I’ll bring her back down.

11. Don’t Be In A Rush

So many guys go down on women for a token amount of time or they go down on them and women are expected to cum really quickly. And for her, that’s going to put a lot of pressure in her mind and she’s not going to be able to relax.

So you want to let her know that you’re going to spend as much time down there as you need to. Don’t put time limits on it and say, “Okay, I’m going to be down there for a minute or five minutes or half an hour.” Just go with the flow and spend as much time as you need to.

Sometimes I’ll go down on my partner just for a couple of minutes because we really want to have intercourse. Other times I’ll go down on my partner for a good amount of time, maybe give them an orgasm before intercourse.

And other times I’m down there for extremely long periods of time, just giving them orgasm after orgasm and it doesn’t even necessarily have to lead to intercourse.

You can let them know you’re not rushing by communicating that with them directly. You can say things like, “Just relax, babe. There’s no rush. I’m just enjoying myself down here.” But you can also express it with the techniques that you use.

If you go down there and start slowly, but quickly ramp up and quickly do the flicking with your tongue, you’re saying to her, “Okay, I want you to cum really quickly.”

Whereas if you’re down there and you’re going through those waves of pleasure, like we talked about, you’re communicating with your techniques that, “Hey, there’s no rush because I’m actually the one in control here. I’m building you up and then I’m bringing you back down. I’m taking you on this journey and you don’t know where it’s going to go.”

So throughout this build up phase, we’re using a variety of different techniques and intensities in order to stimulate the entirety of her vulva and give her a great experience.

12. Keep Consistent Rhythm When She’s Close

Generally, the way that I notice it works is I’ll be taking her through these waves of pleasure. I’ll be building her up and then I’ll start doing something and I’ll notice she really fucking likes it. She starts moaning or she grabs my head or she tells me, “Don’t stop.”

When you find the thing that she really likes and you feel that she’s close to orgasm, that’s when you need to be consistent with your rhythm, with your pressure and with your timing and that’s when you need to not give in.

During this time, you’re likely going to get a sore jaw. Your tongue’s likely going to get sore from licking so much, but this is where you need to suck it up and push through because she’s going to want that consistency to be able to bring her to orgasm.

You don’t want to have her teetering right on the edge of orgasm and then all of a sudden you start doing a different technique.

Imagine if she’s down there sucking your cock and she’s doing something that you absolutely love in an amazing rhythm that feels really good for you. You can feel your orgasm building and building. You’re about to cum26483 and then just as you’re about to cum26521, she switches it up and starts doing something different.

When that happens, you’re like, “No, oh my gosh, I was so close,” and the same is true for her, but maybe even to a bigger extent, because she can go from right close to orgasm all the way back down to the beginning again really quickly.

So when you’re close, push through, even if your jaw’s sore, even if your tongue’s sore, keep going.

And you don’t necessarily need to amp up the speed in this situation either. Sometimes you’ve got a good speed and a good rhythm and you just need to keep going.

A big mistake that guys make is they can feel that she’s close. They’ve got a good speed going, but then they’ll just ramp it up really quickly and it’s too much for the partner that they’re with. So if you want to ramp up the speed, maybe ramp it up a little bit, but not excessively.

13. Wipe Your Face

Lastly, when she’s done, whether she’s had a great orgasm or just a great time, and you’re ready for something else, many women are going to appreciate it if you wipe your face before you go up and kiss her.

Some women absolutely love it if you don’t wipe your face, but many women will prefer it.

So using the bed sheets or a towel or even just using your hand, wipe most of the juices off your face before you come up to kiss her. And if she’s really iffy about kissing you with any juices on your face, you can always keep baby wipes next to the bed and just give your face a quick wipe before you move on to intercourse.

Just know that becoming good at eating pussy takes a lot of practice. Like with any skill, you’re going to start out and you’re not going to be amazing at it. But with time, with practice, and with feedback from your partners, you’re going to get better at it over time.

You’re going to know what women like and you’re going to be able to give them some incredible oral sex and incredible orgasms.

For more help on how to eat pussy, read this article on the best licking techniques that women wish you knew or go ahead and get access to my free tutorial on how to give her some of the best oral orgasms of her life.