How To Get Women To Swallow Your Semen

One of the absolute sexiest things in the world is to be receiving a blowjob, to have a climax that’s incredible and then have your partner swallow your cum. But how do you go about actually getting them to swallow your cum if they haven’t in the past or it’s not something they regularly do?

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and I am passionate about helping you have a better sex life.

I’ve personally had this with a partner in the past, and the tips that I’m sharing today really helped me and helped us to get to a place where she was able to swallow my cum, and it was a really sexy thing for both of us.

1. Talk To Your Partner About It

Ask her about it and her feelings around it. Ask her maybe why she doesn’t swallow and what are her reasons behind it.

Maybe she’s actually worried about her health and she doesn’t know that it’s safe to swallow it. Maybe she simply doesn’t like the taste, or maybe she’s had past negative experiences which means that she doesn’t want to do it anymore.

Try to simply listen to her and understand her concerns. Don’t be pushy with her or make her feel like she has to do it, because that’s just going to turn her off even more.

Talking about sex is really vulnerable, and so if she opens up and shares these things, thank her for sharing those things with you.

You can maybe softly address those concerns as well and just let her know that you really desire it, that you find it really sexy and that if she could do it, it would actually mean a lot to you.

You’re not trying to pressure her into doing it straight away the next time she gives you a blowjob, but you are planting the seed in her mind (get it, the seed) and you’re giving her time to process this information, because many women don’t realize how big of a fucking deal this is for us and how good it makes us feel when she swallows our cum.

So express to her how good it makes you feel, how it makes you feel like she really desires you and wants you, and how it makes you feel love and appreciation towards her.

Be very communicative about how good it makes you feel, because chances are she does want to please you, and if she knows how much it’s going to please you, she might be more likely to do it.

2. Enjoy Her Juices

Sex is a two-way street, and you can’t expect her to be swallowing your semen if you’re not going down on her and enjoying her juices.

So learn how to give good oral sex and learn how to make her cum with your fingers and your mouth, and even learn how to make her squirt and enjoy her juices.

When you’re down there, let her know how much you enjoy her taste. Get your face in all amongst it, moan and groan when you’re down there, even touch yourself when you’re down there, and let her know how good she smells, how good she tastes and how much you absolutely love going down on her.

You also let her know how much you love it with the techniques that you use, because if you’re down there and you’re straight away rushing and trying to give her an orgasm, this is telling her that you want her to cum.

This is putting a lot of pressure on her, which is going to stress her out, but if you’re down there just taking your time and enjoying yourself and taking her through waves of pleasure by building her up and bringing her back down and building her up again, then you’re communicating through your techniques that you’re loving it down here.

She can relax because you’re going to take your time, and then when she is ready, make her orgasm with your fingers and your mouth.

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3. Make Your Sex Really Diverse

Mix up the things that you do, mix up the positions that you’re having sex in, and just overall make sex much more of an experience and an adventure for her, where she’s not really sure what’s going to happen but she knows that it’s going to be good.

Many of us get stuck in these ruts where we have sex in the exact same way with our partner, where we start by kissing and touching, which leads to maybe some oral sex, which then leads to penetration, which then leads to orgasm, but often even that penetration is just the same positions that you know feel good for both of you, and there’s no diversity in there, there’s no fun, there’s no adventure.

The thought behind this is that when you’ve got different flow in your sex life and lots of different positions happen and things happen out of order, it’s going to lead to more arousal for both of you, more arousal for her, which is going to make her more open to receiving you and swallowing you, because she’s going to be in this incredibly sexy headspace where she’s just getting taken on a ride by all of these positions that you’re doing with her.

So learn different positions, go with the flow, but also make oral sex an incredibly sexy part of your sex life and not just something that you do as a token thing before you have the main course, or intercourse.

Oral sex can be the main course. Have experiences where you just go down on her and focus on her and you don’t have penetrative sex at all, you don’t get off, you don’t cum at all.

When you do this for your partner the first time, she’s going to be like, “Well, what about you? Don’t you need to cum?” And when you’re like, “No, I just wanted to go down on you and give you pleasure, and that was so fucking sexy,” then all of a sudden oral sex becomes the main course and it becomes something incredibly sexy in your sex life, and then she may want to return the favor at some point in the future by giving you a blowjob and allowing you to cum in her mouth.

But also allow oral sex to happen at any point in time. Rather than going through the motions of kissing and touching, then oral sex, then intercourse, then orgasm, be having sex with your partner and then pull out of your partner and go down on them and give them an orgasm with your mouth, and maybe using your fingers as well, and then after you’ve given them an orgasm, you can go back to having more sex again.

What you’re doing here is you’re making oral sex a normal and sexy part of your sex life. It’s not the entree before the main course. All of it is sex, and in a way oral sex is actually the most sexy part of what you’re doing together.

4. Praise Her For Being Sexual

If she goes down on you, even if she doesn’t swallow you, give her compliments about that. Tell her how good it makes you feel, tell her how sexy it was, and even communicate to her how much you love her as a sexual person and you love it when she’s sexual.

Many women actually hide and suppress their sexuality and they’re not as sexual as they would like to be, and so if you can actually praise her for that side of herself, she’s going to be more likely to open up, more likely to do things that feel adventurous or more kinky for her, which includes swallowing your cum.

5. Kiss Her While She’s Going Down

Make the act of her giving you a blowjob a really sensual, intimate and sexy experience.

So rather than just sitting back and receiving a blowjob and just looking at her and not really doing anything, you want to be getting into it as well. You want to be moaning and letting her know what feels good. You want to be touching her body and running your hands through her hair.

And what you can do is you can actually run your hands through the back of her hair and you can pull her head back and lean down and kiss her and give her an amazing intimate kiss, and then allow her to go back to sucking your penis.

So rather than oral sex just being this thing that she’s just doing for you and it’s a very one-sided thing, you’re making oral sex this really connected and intimate and arousing experience for her.

On top of kissing her, you could also use toys on her while she’s going down on you, or allow her to use toys on herself. That’s going to begin to make the connection between giving oral, giving blowjobs, and her own pleasure as well.

And many women actually really get off on having a penis in their mouth, but when they’re down there they’re not getting any stimulation, so a toy or a vibrator can be a great way to give them incredible stimulation while they’re giving you a blowjob.

And if you can give them an orgasm while they’re giving you a blowjob, then the chances of her eventually swallowing your semen are going to be higher.

6. Ask If You Can Cum On Her

If she’s not ready to swallow your cum just yet, ask if you can cum on her.

So maybe she’ll be giving you a blowjob, and then when you’re ready to cum, you can pull out of her mouth and you can focus on her chest and on her stomach and cum on her.

Many women absolutely love being cum on, and if they don’t want to swallow, many women are going to prefer this, and it can be incredibly sexy.

And after you’ve cum on them, don’t make it this awkward experience where it’s like, “Oh, now I need to get you a tissue. Oh my gosh, this is a bit gross.” No, cum is fucking sexy.

So what can we do? We can actually use our hands to rub the cum over her. Because it’s slimy and has this interesting texture, it can actually feel really good to touch her, to rub her nipples with your cum, or you can actually rub your body up against her and get intimate.

And you’re saying to her with these actions that cum is actually incredibly sexy and it’s a way for us to connect with each other.

7. Make It Easy For Her

Make sure that you’re well trimmed and that your pubes are short, so she’s not getting them all in her face and in her mouth. No one really likes that.

Generally speaking, when it comes to what women like in that region, most women will say either well-trimmed pubes or they want no hair at all.

And also make sure your penis is clean. Very few women are going to want to go down on a guy if his penis is stanky and doesn’t smell or taste very good, so give it a wash or have a shower first. You don’t have to taste like lollies, but just be clean.

8. Make Your Cum Taste Better

Cum is quite bitter and alkaline and salty, and so by having fruit in your diet you can increase the acidity of your cum, which pulls down the alkalinity to make it taste better and can make it a little bit sweeter.

Also, drinking a lot of water can make your cum taste way better as well, and just being healthy in general and eating lots of good fruits and vegetables.

When I was a vegetarian, I used to get so many comments on how good my cum tasted. Now that I’ve had to start eating meat for my health, I’ll have to say I don’t get those comments anymore.

So avoiding certain things like red meat, like garlic, like alcohol, like coffee can also help the taste of your semen, but do what you can to eat healthy so that your semen tastes less bad, so that she’s more happy to have it in her mouth and happier to swallow it.

9. Cum In The Back Of Her Throat

To make swallowing easier for her, cum in the back of her throat or teach her to receive it in the back of her throat.

So rather than getting it on her tongue and everything, what she can do is actually give you a blowjob, and then when you’re about to cum, you can let her know, “I’m about to cum” (she can probably tell anyway). She can actually take you to the back of her throat, and then as you orgasm and ejaculate, she can swallow as you cum into the back of her throat.

And if she does that, chances are she’s not actually going to taste it at all, or if she is, she’s just going to taste it a little bit. This can make swallowing cum so much easier for so many women.

They will still get a bit of a gluggy feeling in the back of their throat, but this is why it can be a good idea to have water or some juice or a drink nearby in the bedroom.

So if she does swallow your cum, you can easily just hand her a glass of water or a glass of juice, so then she can wash it down without either of you having to leave the room, so you can still have that intimate moment.

10. Kiss Her Afterwards

If you really want to encourage her to continue to swallow your cum, kiss her afterwards. Make it an incredibly sexy experience, show her that you’re not afraid of a little bit of the taste of cum in your mouth, and make it that connected and sexy experience that we talked about.

If you don’t want to get your tongue fully inside her, you can still kiss the outside of her mouth, or if you really don’t want to kiss her mouth, kiss her face, work your way down her neck.

11. Praise Her After She’s Done It

Let her know how sexy that was, let her know how good that felt for you. Show her with your words, but show her with your body as well how much it means to you and how much it makes you attracted to her and grateful for her.

With my partner who originally didn’t like to swallow, when she did swallow I was so shocked by the experience, but I was so turned on and I was so grateful, and I wasn’t even trying to be intense with my reaction, but I loved it so much that I was intense, and she absolutely loved that effect that it had on me, which made her more keen to do it again in the future.

12. Give It Time

It was months for me for my partner to actually swallow my semen for the first time, and this isn’t something that’s necessarily going to happen overnight, and it’s not necessarily something that has to happen.

You don’t want to put this pressure on your partner that they have to do it. Yes, you can let them know you desire it, but don’t make a massive deal out of it, and let it just evolve naturally as she gets more comfortable with it and as you make oral sex a better and more intense and interesting part of your sex life.

This is something great you can experience together.

And another great experience you can give to your partner is helping her to squirt, so go ahead and read this article on exactly how to make your partner squirt, and don’t forget to get access to that advanced oral orgasm tutorial so you can learn how to give your partner some of the best and most consistent orgasms of her life.