Advanced Pussy Eating Tips & Techniques (Only For Pros)

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and something I’m extremely passionate about is helping you give your partner some incredible pleasure.

This article is aimed at people who already know how to give great oral sex. If you’re still learning how to give great oral sex, then I highly suggest my free tutorial.

In that tutorial you’ll learn the best tried and true techniques to be able to bring your partner to orgasm using your mouth and using your fingers.

But assuming you know how to do that, what are some advanced techniques?

Now it’s important to know that when you’re getting into the advanced techniques, it’s very situational and it’s very personal. These techniques will work with some women some of the time.

They’re not techniques that are always going to work, but you can add them into your toolkit and sometimes they can be really effective and they can blow her mind. Or sometimes it’s just a little tweak to make the oral sex experience better for both of you.

1. A Communication Technique With Your Partner

Sometimes you’ll be going down on a woman and you won’t be really clear on when she’s experiencing great pleasure or even when she’s orgasming.

Some women kind of hover around orgasm for a long period of time and it’s hard to know when they actually push into orgasm and when they’re having an orgasm.

And if this is you with your partner, it can be really useful to work out a signal ahead of time that your partner can communicate to you when she is close to cumming, so that you don’t stop right when she’s about to cum.

Some examples that I’ve used with previous partners are that you can get them to hold onto your head. You can get them to tap you on the head when they’re close, or you can use verbal language as well.

She can say “don’t stop” or “I’m about to cum”, and if you don’t know when she’s cumming, ask her to tell you, to say “I’m cumming”, so then you know.

This is generally a conversation that you’ll have not while you’re having sex or giving oral, so you might have this conversation just after a sex session and you can talk and say, “Hey, I don’t really know when you’re cumming. Can we work on a way that you can tell me that so that I can give you more pleasure?”

And then you can talk about it like that, or you can talk about it just completely outside of sex in general.

2. Suck The Entire Vulva

This is getting everything in your mouth.

This is not going to be a technique that is going to bring her to orgasm, but it can still feel really good for her sometimes, and it’s not a technique that you would use for a long period of time either.

But you might be going down on her, maybe you’ve just been warming her up, and it can be a way to bring blood flow into the area. Or maybe you’ve been playing with her clit, you found that she’s quite stimulated but she’s not ready to orgasm yet: let’s give her a break and do something else.

We can suck the entirety of her vulva into our mouths and we can even lick with our tongue while it’s in there to give her a really unique sensation that not many guys are ever going to do.

You can also put your head to the side and suck bits of the vulva into your mouth as well.

When you get to this more advanced stage, not everything has to feel really good and has to bring her to orgasm.

A lot of giving great oral sex is allowing her to relax into it, but also kind of creating an adventure out of it where it’s not really predictable what’s going to happen. You know what you’re doing, you’ve got skills, you know how to give her pleasure, and so what you’re doing is taking her on a journey, giving her lots of different feelings and making it an experience for her.

So it’s not so much about that one technique on her clit that feels really good, but it’s about giving her this overall experience and then maybe ending on that one clit technique she really likes so she has the orgasm.

3. Mix Up The Positions

Generally you’re not going to do this in a single session, so you’re not going to move her into five different positions when you’re giving her oral sex, but if you’re with a partner regularly, explore different positions from time to time.

Most commonly she’ll be lying down on her back with her legs spread, and that’s great, but mix it up to pushing her legs over her head and accessing her from there, licking her ass at the same time as well.

Or go down on her when she’s standing up: put her against the wall, go on your knees and go down on her from that direction.

Or be in the doggy style position having sex and then pull out and go down on her while she’s in that doggy style position. She’ll absolutely love it and it’ll feel very unique because you’re coming at the vulva from the opposite direction, which is not what she’s used to feeling.

By mixing things up you’re creating that sense of adventure. She doesn’t know where things are going to go and you’re giving her unique experiences almost every time you have sex, and if you combine that with skills where you actually know what you’re doing, that makes sex more exciting for her and she’s going to want to do it more.

4. Give Her Oral Sex With A Dominant Frame

You’re going down on her not only to give her pleasure, but you’re going down on her because you want to go down on her, and you’re taking this dominant frame where you’re actually going to control her orgasm and control her pleasure.

Many women love to relax and submit into that experience, so by going into it with a dominant frame you can even hold a hand on her chest while you go down on her.

You can tease her, and when she starts writhing and wanting more, you can tell her, “No, not yet.” There’s so many different things that you can do in a dominant way.

Often you’ll be doing the same techniques that you usually do, but it’s the way that you do it and the energy that you bring to the interaction which can make her so aroused in her mind and just give her this incredible experience.

5. Masturbate At The Same Time

You can do this whilst in this dominant frame or even just in general.

Maybe get her right up against the edge of the bed so you can kneel on the floor and you’ve got access to yourself so you can masturbate. But you go down on her, you give her a lot of pleasure, but touch yourself at the same time, and many women will absolutely love this because they can sense that you’re getting turned on giving them head.

Imagine if a girl was going down on you, giving you head, and she’s so turned on just by having your cock in her mouth that she’s touching herself. And imagine if she had an orgasm while she was giving you head. How fucking sexy would that be?

So you can take the same sort of energy into giving her head. You can touch yourself and let her know that you’re really enjoying going down on her.

You can moan and you can make noises, you can move your body just to show her how good it is. You can even bring your fingers out of her and lick your fingers to show her how good she tastes and how much it’s turning you on, and this is going to help make her feel desired and give her a better experience.

Remember, it’s not just about the techniques that we use. Yes, they need to be good, but to take things to the next level is often about the experience more so than improving our techniques.

Here you’re not only giving amazing pleasure to her vulva, but you’re giving amazing pleasure to her mind as well, creating this heightened experience.

6. Learn How To Breathe

If you haven’t already, then it’s really important that you learn how to breathe through the side of your mouth or through one nostril, or simply hold your breath while going down on her.

You don’t want to be having big breaks in order to take a breath, so when you’re going down on her, explore different ways that you can take breaths and hold your breath without stopping giving her pleasure.

7. Teach Her To Sit On Your Face

Something that I could probably create an entire video on is to teach her to sit on your face and to grind your face.

This is going to take trust, it’s going to take confidence from her, but it can be really pleasurable for women and can be a really heightened experience.

It’s not something you want to do all the time, and maybe if she’s feeling really sensual she won’t want to do it, but when you’re hot and heavy and really keen on each other, get her to sit on your face and get her to ride your face and really take control.

Often when women sit on your face, they don’t really know what to do. They don’t really know what feels good, and they’re scared to kind of go up your face onto your nose or onto your forehead, where often the grinding can feel best.

So when she’s sitting on your face, encourage her to explore what feels good for her and let her know that you’re completely fine down here, you’re absolutely loving it.

But I think one of the mistakes that both men and women make is that when she’s sitting on your face, we think that we need to do all the work. And sometimes, yes, she can move back so her clit is over our mouth and we can stimulate her clit, but a lot of the time the best experience she’s going to get is when she’s actually fully grinding all over your face and finding what feels good for her.

So an advanced tip for this is to actually take some spit and to rub it on your forehead or rub it on the bridge of your nose, and then move her up to that section and move around with your head.

You’re going to have to close your eyes here so you don’t get her cum in your eyes. You’re going to have to learn how to breathe through all of this, but explore different things, find what feels good and encourage her to just go for it and not to worry about you.

And then when she’s done, encourage her even more and say, “That was so fucking sexy. I absolutely loved it when you did this or when you did that. It really turns me on.” And you can even touch yourself while she’s sitting on your face.

If you want more advanced techniques on how to give incredible oral sex and incredible pleasure to your partner, then head over to Passionately.com and check out the courses over there. I’ve got courses on fingering, on squirting, on oral sex, and you can learn everything you need to know about becoming the best lover possible.

Did you like this article on advanced techniques? There’s a lot more techniques that I didn’t share in this article.

Go ahead and read this article on the 16 oral sex techniques she wishes you knew.