10 Best Oral Sex Clit Stimulation Techniques To Make Her Cum Over & Over

If you want to give your partner incredible pleasure and incredible orgasms through oral sex, then you’re going to want to spend a lot of time focusing on the clitoris with your tongue and with your mouth. And there’s 10 different techniques that I want to share with you that are absolutely going to blow her mind.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator from passionately.com, and I’m passionate about helping you give your partner some of the best pleasure of their lives.

I want to show you some of the best techniques that work really well for most women, because often if you’re just learning stuff from porn, you’re learning the wrong things that don’t feel really good.

1. The Flat Tongue

The first technique is great for warming her up and starting to bring blood flow into the area and getting her aroused.

To do the flat tongue, simply make your tongue as flat as possible. Starting at the bottom of her vulva, work your way up over the clitoris with your flat tongue and then almost flicking the clitoris a little bit with your tongue, coming away, working your way back down and then licking again.

So this is stimulating the entirety of the vulva, but you’re also coming up and stimulating the clitoris as well on your way up.

If you haven’t eaten a lot of pussy before, then this is the number one technique that you need to go to, because pretty much everyone loves this technique. And it’s a great way to really warm her up and get her prepared for the other techniques.

Because when it comes to eating pussy, the more aroused she is, the more blood is going to flow into the area and the better everything is going to feel. So some of these techniques that are quite intense are not going to feel good if you don’t warm her up first.

So something like the flat tongue is great for warming her up, and then once she’s fully aroused, a lot of blood flow in the area, then you can proceed to the more intense techniques I’m about to teach you.

2. Slow Circles

Here you’re not using the tip of your tongue like you might see in porn, where they really point their tongue out, but you’re actually using the middle part of your tongue over the clitoris, and you’re doing really small circles with the middle part of your tongue.

Again, this is more of a warm-up technique to begin to build her up and bring blood flow into the area. However, you can add pressure to make this more intense without amping up the speed, or you can amp up the speed with this technique to make it more intense for her, to help bring her to orgasm.

You can also combine all the techniques I’m sharing with you with G-spot stimulation using your finger, and this can really help to bring many women to orgasm who can’t orgasm simply from the clit stimulation alone.

In fact, I’ve got a free video where I share with you exactly how to stimulate the G-spot and give your partner some of the best oral orgasms of their life. Simply go to passionately.com/oral to get access to that advanced tutorial.

You’ll also get access to my free newsletter where I share other tips on how to give incredible pleasure to your partner. Many of those tips I don’t share on YouTube.

3. Soft-Hard Pressure

Here we’re not so focused on movement, but rather we are placing the clitoris in that middle part of our tongue again, and we’re applying more pressure.

So with the slow circles we had quite a light pressure in the beginning, but with this, what we can do is actually pulsate pressure with our tongue. So we can apply pressure and then release it, or we can just press and hold that pressure, which can feel really good for her.

Now, you can do a bit of movement with this, but the clitoris is going to stay attached to your tongue.

The best example I can give is if you imagine if I’m rubbing my arm, my skin’s not moving, but my hand’s moving over my arm. This is kind of what we’re doing when we were doing those slow circles: the clitoris wasn’t moving, but our tongue was moving over the clitoris.

However, when we apply pressure, it’s almost sticking the clitoris to our tongue. So if we do small movements, the skin on my arm moves with me.

The clitoris is going to move with you with the small movements that you do, but here the focus isn’t on the movements, it’s more focused on the pressure.

And some women can like a lot of pressure as they get more aroused. So much pressure to the point where you might actually want to put your tongue over your lip, because you’re pressing so hard, otherwise your teeth might cut into your tongue. So play around with pressure and see what your partner likes.

And with all of these techniques, ultimately what matters is what your partner likes. These are techniques that are proven to work with many women, and many women like them, but every woman is completely different and they like different things.

So find out what works for them. Just because you read it in this article doesn’t mean it’s going to work on your partner. Get feedback, communicate with your partner, find out what they like and which of these techniques are their favourites.

4. The Slow Flick

This is where we are licking the clitoris with the middle part of our tongue, but then we are flicking it towards the tip of our tongue, and as our tongue comes off the clitoris, we give the clitoris a little flick.

We then move away, come back down, touch the clitoris again with the middle part of our tongue, go back up and flick it again. And you can repeat this process, flicking the clitoris, which can feel really good for her.

5. Moving It In Circles

This is different to when we had the middle part of our tongue on the clitoris and we’re doing circles. So here we’re actually moving the clitoris backwards and forwards and up and down, almost doing circles around the clitoris, moving it around with our tongue.

6. The Fast Up And Down

So we’re getting closer to what you see in porn here. However, generally in porn they’ll just flick with the very tip of their tongue.

However, what I find to be more effective is to actually use the middle part of your tongue and to go up and down from the middle part of your tongue to the tip of your tongue and back to the middle again. So you’re rubbing up against the clit like that, rather than just flicking it with the tip of your tongue.

7. The Fast Side To Side

So here we are going to use the tip of our tongue, and instead of going up and down on the clit, we’re going to go side to side on the clit.

Some women prefer the up and down, some women prefer the side to side, many women like both, and you just get to mix it up. Sometimes you’ll be going down on her and your tongue will get really, really sore doing the up and down, or it’ll get really sore doing the side to side, and so you need to switch between things.

Something else that you can add into the side to side, because you’ll find that your tongue will fatigue and you’ll stop getting as accurate with the side to side the longer you do it: you can actually move your head side to side, and you can do that quite vigorously to get a little bit longer of the side to side and have a little bit more intensity.

This side to side with your head isn’t something you can maintain for a long, long time, but it can be really good to throw in there.

8. The T-Cross

I learned the T-cross from porn star Erik Everhard in his book Unleash Your Sexual Superpowers. It’s a great read.

And the idea with the T-cross is that you do the up and down movement like I taught you, and then you add in a little bit of side to side, and then continue doing the up and down movement.

This is because when women get close to orgasm, they do appreciate a consistent rhythm on their clitoris. However, if you’re doing the same technique, it can become numb or it can become overstimulating.

So by doing the T-cross, you’re able to keep that consistent rhythm by going up and down, but then you throw in some side to side and then go back to up and down, just to mix things up, to add a bit of variety and to stop it from getting numb, and to help bring her to orgasm.

Again, with many women you’re going to want to combine this with G-spot stimulation as well using your fingers if you want to bring them to orgasm. Go to passionately.com/oral to learn the exact techniques to do in that advanced tutorial.

9. Sucking The Clit

There’s actually many toys out there that use air pulses to mimic sucking of the clit, and many women absolutely love this.

You do need to be a little bit careful when you’re sucking the clit, because if you suck it in too much, it can pull the skin in the surrounding areas, and that can actually hurt your partner.

So you want to start with light pressure and light sucking just on the clit itself, and you can suck in and then release, suck in and then release, so you’re creating this pulsing pressure with your sucking.

It doesn’t need to be really hard to feel really good for her. It can be a light sucking directly on the clitoris head itself.

Alternatively, you can actually incorporate more of the vulva as well and suck in some of the surrounding areas, and this can feel good with technique number 10.

10. Sucking And Licking At The Same Time

You can do this just by sucking in the clitoral head itself, and then you can lick while sucking on the clit. Or you can do it by sucking in more of the vulva and the surrounding areas and then doing larger licks to kind of move the clitoris around.

So it’s either holding the clitoris in place, and then you can get access to do up and down with your tongue or side to side with your tongue while you’re holding it in your mouth, or you can pull more of it into your mouth and you can do those circles with your tongue, or you can flick up and down and move the clitoris around a bit more.

Depending on your partner and depending on the situation will depend on which version they like. Many women like both versions, and you just need to choose the right one for the right situation.

But sucking that clit into your mouth and holding it there while you lick it is honestly one of the best ways to bring women to orgasm with oral sex.

You can also go ahead and read this article on the 16 oral sex techniques that women wish you knew, or go ahead and check out this video on the best positions for oral sex. So not only can you mix up techniques, but you can mix up positions as well, and women can absolutely love that.