Face Sitting For Beginners: How To Make Her Cum

Getting your partner to sit on your face can be a really sexy experience for both of you. It can really turn you on to receive that, and it can be really intense for them as well. It can give them intense pleasure, but it also gives them control to do what feels good for them.

However, sometimes your partner can have some reservations about this, and it can be difficult to get them to do it. So how exactly can you get your partner to sit on your face?

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and I’m passionate about helping you give more pleasure to your partner. And sometimes to be able to give your partner that pleasure, you need to know how to get them into these situations in ways that feel comfortable for them, and obviously in ways that are consensual.

I’ve taken many women who were really nervous about sitting on someone’s face and who had never done it before and been able to get them to comfortably do it and enjoy it so much that they did it multiple times.

So how can you have this same experience with your partner?

1. Talk To Your Partner Outside Of The Bedroom

Often we shy away from talking about sex, let alone talking about the desires that we have within sex with our partner. But chances are your partner wants to have a vibrant and exciting sex life just as much as you do. And she might not even know that this is something that you really want.

So when you talk to her about it, let her know that this is something that really turns you on. It’s something that you would really like to try. It’s something that you think is really sexy. And get her thoughts on the matter or ask her whether that would be something she would be willing to try.

She doesn’t necessarily have to do it the next time that you have sex, but just teeing up this conversation outside of sex, putting it in both of your minds. So when you are together and it does feel right, you can try it.

If she has any reservations about it, this can be a good opportunity to reassure her. Maybe she’s like, “I’m not sure about that,” because she’s worried about the way that she’s going to look when she’s on your face, that her double chin will be showing or whatever.

And so this is your chance to communicate with your partner how much she turns you on, how beautiful you think she is and how much you would love this experience because it’s going to turn you on and it’s something you desire.

2. Ask Her In The Moment

Maybe you’re going down on her already. You can ask her, “Hey, can you sit on my face?”

And similar to the conversation outside of sex, she may have some reservations and may need some reassurance and she might not be willing to do it there and then, but it’s something that you can then bring up in conversation later.

So if you ask her in the moment and she’s like, “Oh no, I don’t think so,” after the sex you can then say, “Hey, how come you didn’t want to do that during sex? Something I’d really like to try. It really turns me on and I want to find new ways to give you pleasure.”

But many women, if you ask them in the moment, are going to be open to at least trying it.

3. Guide Her Into The Position

Something that you can do is when you’re having foreplay, you can go ahead and pull her on top of you so that her legs are either side of you. And you can then begin to wiggle down until your face is between her legs.

Now, obviously consent is extremely important here. So if she doesn’t want to do it, then you’ll need to stop.

But I found that for many women, they like sex to flow very naturally. And so they feel like we’re having foreplay and then we’ve flowed into them on top of me and then I’ve just slid down. Everything has just sort of flowed naturally and they can get into it.

4. Get Really Good At Giving Her Oral Orgasms

If you suck at oral sex and it doesn’t feel good for her, chances are she’s not going to want to sit on your face.

But if you’re really good at giving oral, you take your time down there, you bring her to orgasm through oral sex, she’s going to have much more positive associations with oral and be much more inclined to want to sit on your face as a new experience for something that can feel really good because you’ve already proven that oral can be amazing with you.

Now, I’ve got loads of articles on this site about how to give better oral sex, but I’ve also got a free oral orgasm tutorial where I show you the best and most consistent technique that I’ve found to bring women to orgasm with oral sex.

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5. Let Her Know How Much It Turns You On

Now, if she hasn’t sat on your face before, chances are the first experience for her isn’t going to be the most amazing experience of her life. She’s going to be up there being a little bit nervous, not really sure what to do either to make it feel good for her.

And I personally think one of the most important things to do in this situation is to let her know how much it turns you on.

You can do this with your moaning, you can do this with your body language by pulling her into you, burying your face into her and you can also touch yourself as well and let her know that you are really feeling this. You’re doing this for your pleasure because it feels so good.

6. Praise Her Immediately

Another thing that I like to do to reassure the women that I’m with when they’re sitting on my face is to praise them immediately.

So I’m going to show them that I’m into it by moaning, by pulling them into me, all of that good stuff, but I’m also going to communicate to them as well. When they’re on top of me, I’m going to tell them, “Oh my god, you look so fucking sexy,” or “Oh my god, this turns me on so much. I’m absolutely loving this.”

And afterwards as well, whether she only sat on my face for a nervous five seconds or she actually spent a decent amount of time there, I’m going to praise her and let her know how much I loved it: “That was so sexy. I absolutely loved that. I’m so turned on right now and I can’t wait to have more of you.”

By praising her and honestly just communicating with her how much you love it, she’s going to be more likely to have positive feelings about it and more likely to want to do it in the future as well because most partners want to give pleasure to their partner.

And if she can see that this is a way she can give you some intense pleasure, she’s going to be more excited to do that.

7. Encourage Her To Do What Feels Good

Now, when it comes to the actual technique of her sitting on your face, you want to make it feel really good for her. And most women in the beginning aren’t going to really know what to do when they’re sitting on your face.

Yes, you can bring it so that their clitoris is over your mouth and you can lick their clitoris from that position and that can feel really good for them. But I find it really helpful to encourage my partners to simply do what feels good for them.

This is going to be exploration for the both of you because riding your face is very different to them lying down and you giving them oral sex.

What can feel good for a lot of women is to actually rock their hips back and forth, side to side or in circles around your face.

Now, depending on your facial hair, that may feel good or not. So you might want to be fully shaven for this so you’re not prickling them or some women like a bit of stubble or a bit of beard.

And also it can be good to encourage them to ride on your nose and the bridge of your nose as well as on your forehead.

Now you’re going to need to work out how to breathe down there and you can have a cue for if you’re running out of breath by tapping your partner or pinching your partner to let them know that you need some air.

But a pro tip that I found has been really helpful is I’ll actually take spit and I will rub the spit on my forehead and on my nose and I will then grab my partner’s hips and pull her up there, and then I’ll move my face a bit and then encourage them to move and grind.

8. Explore It Together

Don’t expect to know exactly what to do that feels good for her when she’s riding your face in the beginning, and don’t expect her to know either, but just explore it together.

And then you can talk about it afterwards and say, “Hey, that really turned me on. I really fucking liked it. I’d love to do it again, but what felt good for you? Because I’m not really sure.”

And then you can have a discussion together about what felt good and maybe some things that you want to try. If she didn’t grind your nose or your forehead, you can say, “Maybe next time we can try that.”

9. Let Her Tease You

I find that a lot of women, they might be nervous in the beginning, but once this becomes something that you do regularly or semi-regularly, she’ll know how much it turns you on and she might have a lot of fun actually teasing you.

So she will hover over your face and tell you not to touch her, or “not yet”. And you can just enjoy that. Let her tease you, play into it and be like, “Oh my god, I want you so badly. Come on.”

And then when she finally does, respond in a positive way and let her know how much it turns you on.

So it becomes this adventurous thing that you do together where she can enter a slightly more dominant frame, and also she gets this pleasure of you craving her and absolutely loving it. So even if the technique of sitting on your face doesn’t feel good, emotionally and psychologically it’s such a turn on.

But all in all, just have fun with it. There’s going to be some new techniques and some experimentation, but also the tried and true oral clit stimulation techniques are also going to work really well.

So you’re going to want to know how to pleasure her clit really well, so go ahead and check out this article on the best oral clit stimulation techniques and don’t forget to sign up for that free oral orgasm tutorial so you can give your partner some of the most mind-blowing orgasms of her life.