10 Best Clit Fingering Techniques To Blow Her Mind

The clitoris is the most sensitive spot on a woman’s body and learning how to pleasure it properly with your fingers can be a great way to give your partner incredible pleasure but also some mind-blowing orgasms as well.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and in this article I’m going to give you 10 different techniques that you can use on the clitoris.

Now ultimately every woman is different and what they like is going to be different, so while these techniques can be great for most women, you need to work with your partner to find out exactly which of these techniques they like the best, or maybe they like something else better. Just because you read it in an article doesn’t mean it’s going to work for them.

Communicate with your partner and find out what they like, but this is going to give you a really good place to start, and chances are they’re going to love a lot of the techniques that I’m going to share with you.

Now imagine that this is her vulva, with the clitoris here.

First thing, you need to know where the clitoris is, so if you don’t know how to find it, check out the article that I did exactly on that topic. But the clitoris is up at the top and the vaginal opening is down at the bottom.

1. The Full Palm

So this is where you put your hand over her vulva, so if we imagine her stomach is up at the top, you’re actually stimulating the clitoris with the base of your palm, and the rest of your hand is cupping and touching the vulva.

So this can feel really good for her. You can actually apply massage-like pressure with your fingers onto her vulva, and then what you’re doing with your palm on the clitoris is holding your palm on the clitoris, and you can do little circles with your palm over the clitoris to apply pressure to the area but to also be massaging the clitoris as well.

This can be a really great way to start and get your partner aroused. You can do it with a very light pressure with your palm, or you can also actually push down with your palm and apply more pressure as well.

2. Soft Direct Contact

So we can slide down from the top and touch the clitoris with our fingertip, or we can come from the bottom, work our way up and find the clitoris that way.

We’re making very soft contact with our finger, and we can actually just hold our finger there, or we can apply a little bit of pressure in order to give her incredible pleasure. Then we can move away and then maybe we want to come back and do the same thing.

3. Applying Small Circles

I forgot to mention that whenever you’re touching the clitoris your fingers should always be wet, so go ahead and spit on your fingers or use your partner’s wetness, but the clitoris doesn’t like being touched dry.

What we can do with our finger is actually do small circles on the clitoris with a little bit of pressure, and this can feel really good for them. If you want to build up the intensity, then you can just push harder with your finger and continue to do small circles.

You don’t need to try and do really quick circles, that can be quite intense and very difficult to do, but really just small circles can feel really good, and by applying more pressure you can increase the intensity that way.

We’ll talk more about some really intense techniques towards the end.

4. Pulsing Pressure

So instead of doing circles, you can put your finger on the clitoris and just pulse backwards and forwards on her clitoris.

5. The Two-Finger Glide

So again, making sure your fingers are wet with her wetness or spit, what you’re going to do is slide your fingers on either side of the clitoris.

You can even make it all the way through to the second knuckles if you want to massage it, pull away and then do it again, or you can slide down just using the first part of your fingers and go forward and backwards.

6. Jerking It Off

This is similar to the two-finger glide, but instead of gliding our fingers down we’re actually going to approach it.

Usually I use my thumb and two fingers, and we’re actually going to massage the clitoris kind of like we’re jerking off a little penis.

Again, you want to make sure that your fingers are wet when you’re doing this, but this can feel really good for her, and you can even sometimes use your fingers to apply pressure to the outer lips and squeeze everything in together, so it doesn’t have to be directly on the clitoris. You can do the same technique on her outer lips.

7. The Three-Finger Massage

So the way that I like to do this is like how we slid down with a two-finger glide, but my two outer fingers, my pointer finger and my ring finger, they’re actually going to go on the outer lips of her vagina, with my middle finger going directly over the clitoris to stimulate the clitoris.

What I can then do is actually pull these outer fingers together in order to create a massage-like pressure on the clitoris, and I’m actually unlikely to be touching the clitoris with the tip of my finger, it’s more around the middle of my finger that is applying pressure to the clitoris as I’m massaging it.

As I’m doing this I’ll also usually add a little bit of up and down as well, and this isn’t necessarily a technique that’s going to bring her to orgasm, but it’s going to build her up, get her more aroused and ready for orgasm.

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8. Three-Finger Circle

This is something that you’ll see a lot of women do to themselves.

So the way that this works is you put your fingers down over the clitoris, with mostly your middle finger going to be on the clitoris, but it can move around, and then you’re going to do circles, rubbing her clitoris.

Now these can be small circles like we talked about earlier, where the pad of your finger is just doing small circles, or what it can actually be is your middle finger kind of flicking the clitoris around, and your outer fingers are providing support so that the clitoris isn’t going all over the place.

So what you’re doing is you’re rubbing your middle finger around, but the clitoris is kind of stuck between the two outer fingers, and this way you can really build up some speed and some pressure.

And for many women as well, the focus doesn’t have to be on the clitoris head itself, but it can be mostly on the shaft of the clitoris and even over the hood. So if they find it too intense to touch the clitoris directly, you can rub the shaft and over the hood doing these three-finger circles.

In fact, one of the best ways to find out how your partner likes their clitoris to be touched is to watch them masturbate.

So ask them to touch themselves or touch their clit, maybe while you’re fingering them or maybe while you’re going down on them, and see what techniques they use on their clitoris and try to mimic that, or learn that and see if they like it.

9. Use Your Thumb During Sex

So if you imagine that you’re having missionary sex, but you’re now raised up, so you’re mostly just on your knees but standing up, you should now have access to the top of her clitoris with your thumb.

You can do the same technique with the inside of your fingers, but you kind of have to bend your arm in a weird way, so most of the time it’s going to be easiest to use your thumb and to actually go ahead and press it on the clitoris.

Again, you want to make sure it’s wet, so spit on your thumb if you need to, and then you can actually apply pressure to the clitoris, or you can rub the clitoris back and forth as you’re also having sex with your partner.

Honestly, this can be quite a coordination challenge, and for some women, because you’re not very coordinated, it’s not going to feel good for them.

So for this reason I like to focus more on just applying pressure to the clitoris and allowing the natural movement of our sex and our intercourse to naturally rub the clitoris against my thumb, rather than actively trying to rub the clitoris with my thumb. But depending on your coordination and depending on what your partner likes, you might be more or less active with your thumb.

Most women can’t actually orgasm from penetration alone, so by combining this clit stimulation with your thumb with penetration, they’re more likely to have an orgasm, and overall it’s just going to feel good for them.

Orgasm doesn’t always need to be the goal, just adding pleasure to them can be really good, but it does have the added benefit that it’s more likely to bring them to orgasm.

10. The Three-Finger Back And Forth

And the last technique is really intense and should only be used when she’s extremely close to orgasm, or if she’s already orgasmed and you’re just kind of keeping her going, she’s one of those girls that can orgasm again and again and it just gets more intense.

And I call this one the three-finger back and forth, because that’s what we’re going to be doing, and we can actually do this quite intense.

Again, I know I keep saying it, but for this one you want your fingers to be really wet.

What we’re doing with our fingers is going back and forth over the clitoris.

You’ll notice that I’m not tucking away my pinky finger, but just the way that you’re rubbing it, you’re rubbing against the pad of these three fingers, so it naturally won’t really touch the pinky finger at all.

You can do this lightly and fairly slow, you can do this lightly and fast, or you can do it hard and fast as well. It depends what your partner likes.

Now this can be really intense for them in a good way, but it can also be really intense and overwhelming in a bad way and can actually hurt them.

So generally when I’m doing this I do like to say to my partner, “Tell me if this is too much,” so they feel like they have permission when it’s not feeling good to say, “Okay, that’s enough.”

But I found that this can be really good when I’m fingering my partner and giving them an orgasm that way, or maybe using my mouth as well.

Once they’ve reached orgasm, or they’re still going, I can come out and then do this really quickly, and if they’re super aroused and in a heightened state it can feel really intense for them, and I’ve actually had women squirt through using this technique.

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