How To Do Doggystyle Sex Way Better (& Make Her Cum)

Along with missionary position, doggystyle is one of the most popular positions that people do, and there’s things that you can do to take your doggystyle to the next level, to make it feel better for you, to make it feel better for her, and to even bring her to some mind-blowing orgasms in this position.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and I’m passionate about helping you become better in bed and give more pleasure to your partner. And what better way to do that than in the doggystyle position, which is one that you’re going to find yourself in a lot of times.

You might be thinking, “Phoenix, doggystyle is pretty simple, I know what I’m doing,” but trust me, there’s a few tips in here that I bet you haven’t heard before, and I saved some of the best tips for last.

1. Allow Her To Do The Thrusting

Rather than being in the doggystyle position, and you’re doing all the thrusting, and you have all of the control, get into the position and maybe slide yourself inside her slightly, but then get her to actually back onto you and control things.

This can be a great way for you to have a rest if you’ve been vigorous, but it also makes her feel more involved, and she gets to control the speed as well as the depth of how far you go inside her. Because sometimes when the guy’s in control, he’s going too hard, too fast, or he’s going too deep, which can actually hurt her.

So by allowing her to do this, you can find out what she likes, and it can actually feel really good for you when she does that slow, rhythmic back and forth. And then as you get worked up, you can join in as well with your thrust.

2. Get Her To Lie Down

Now you’ve got your regular doggystyle position where she’s got her torso raised up on her arms, but something you can do which can make it more intense and change the angle of things is to actually get her to lie down.

So she’ll still be on her knees with her bum up, but she’ll put her head and part of her chest onto the bed.

What this is going to do is it can tilt her pelvis down, which means as you go inside her, it can make her feel tighter, and it can make it feel more intense for both of you.

Depending on what she likes and how restricted she likes to be as well, you can even put your hand on her back or on her shoulders to hold her down as you’re fucking her in this position. However, some women don’t like to feel that restrained, so communicate with your partner and make sure that she’s feeling comfortable and she’s enjoying everything.

3. Lift Her Up And Hold Her Into You

In the opposite direction, what you can do is take her from the position where she’s just up on her arms, and you can actually lift her up and hold her into you. So she’ll be facing away from you, but you can actually pull her up so she’s kneeling upright, and then you can come at her from behind.

This position is a bit more strenuous. It’s a bit of a balancing act, and it will use your core, but it’s a really good way to mix things up, make doggystyle more diverse, and it’s a really intimate position to be in, because if you’re not holding her, she’s going to fall forward.

So you’re actually holding her up by putting your arms around her. It’s a really masculine thing to do, and it can be really sexy.

4. Lie Down On Top Of Her

Another variation that you can do when she’s in the doggystyle position and she’s up on her arms is rather than you being back on your knees, you can actually lie down on top of her and she’ll be supporting your weight.

But in this position, you can support your weight with one arm, but here you’ll be able to caress her breasts, you’ll be able to kiss her on her cheek or on her neck, and you can even slide your hand down her stomach and down to her clitoris in this position.

It’s going to be harder for you to thrust in this position, and also she’s not going to be able to support your weight for a long period of time, but by mixing up these different positions, you’re not just doing doggystyle in this one position, but you’ve now got multiple positions that you can move in and out of in doggystyle, which is going to make it so much more exciting, much more of an adventure, and she’s not going to know what’s coming next, which is going to arouse her even more and make everything feel better.

5. Put Her Legs Inside Yours

Another variation is you can put her legs inside yours, so usually in doggystyle, you’ll be on your knees with your knees together and she’ll have her legs further out, but you can actually switch this around so her legs are further in and your legs are outside of hers.

This can compress the vulva and make things a little bit tighter, which can feel really nice, and you can adjust her height based on how far back on her knees she goes.

6. Go Fully Back On Her Knees

If she’s in the doggystyle position, you can get her to spread her legs a bit more and to actually sit back on her knees.

Now, if you’re the one who’s behind her and she sits back on her knees, she’s going to be very low. So if that’s the case, you’ve got to get very low as well, and you’re basically going to be sitting on your bum, but then she sits on you, and then you can thrust from this position.

7. Touch Her Clitoris

Most women don’t actually orgasm from intercourse alone, and the clitoris is the most sensitive spot on a woman’s body. So if you can pleasure her clitoris while you’re having intercourse, she’s going to be more likely to orgasm.

To pleasure her clitoris while you’re on your knees, you can reach around and pleasure her clitoris with your fingers. It can require a bit of contortion of your wrist in order to get it, and I do advise that you spit on your fingers to make them wet when you’re pleasuring her clitoris.

When you’re in that lying down position as well, it can be easy to get back to her clitoris and pleasure it, or you can encourage her to touch her clitoris as well. This can work very well when she’s in that more lying down position because she’s not holding herself up. This frees up her arm to go and touch herself.

If she begins touching herself, tell her how sexy it is and how hot you find it when she touches herself.

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8. Don’t Forget To Touch Her Body

You’re in this position where you have your hands free where you can caress her body. You can play with her back.

You can reach around and touch her breasts or her stomach or her clitoris and you can also caress and play with her bum in this position and you can also stroke her upper thighs. All of this is going to add to the overall experience for her.

Now getting into some of the more spicy and less vanilla tips.

9. Play With Her Ass

There is a lot of nerve endings around the anus and for many women it feels incredible to have their ass played with while they’re being penetrated.

One of the ways that I really like to start playing with a woman’s ass in this position is I’ll get some spit and I will put it on my thumb and then what I’m going to do is put my thumb down onto her ass.

Now I’m just pressing the pad of my thumb against her anus, so I’m not actually sticking my finger in her bum, but I’m taking the pad, pressing it against her anus and then I’m massaging around, and the wetter it is the better it’s going to feel.

Now if you want to amp things up and if your partner does like your finger inside her then you can place your finger inside her bum as well.

What you can do from this massaging position is you can bend your thumb in, however you just want to make sure you don’t have sharp nails if you’re going to do this, but you can bend it in just a little bit and put your thumb in just to about the nail.

This isn’t going to push past that inner sphincter which can be too much for some women. So for many women who aren’t as into bum play but like a little bit, going just up to the nail can be really good, or if she does really like it then you can slide the thumb all the way in.

Just make sure you apply a lot of spit to it or use lubricant so that you don’t tear her on the way in or hurt her in any way.

And then you can hold your thumb in there as you’re penetrating her and you can wiggle your thumb a little bit which can feel good for her. This is also going to make her vagina feel tighter and you’ll likely be able to feel it yourself and you can kind of feel your finger with your penis.

Instead of fingers you could also use butt plugs to get a similar effect as well.

10. Scratch Her Back

Now if she likes a little bit of pain when you’re in the doggystyle position you can actually scratch her back and scratch it quite hard. How hard you do it depends on what she likes.

You can do gentle scratches if she just wants to be sensual or you can do those harder scratches where it starts to make her skin a little bit red and then you can scratch down to her bum and down her thighs as well.

Obviously this needs to be consensual and you want to make sure that she’s enjoying it. You just don’t go ahead and inflict pain upon someone if they’re not into it.

11. Spank Her

But if they are into pain then you can also spank them in the doggystyle position as well. Many women absolutely love to be spanked and this is one of the best positions to do it in.

I find the best way to do it is with my opposite hand. So my right hand is going to spank her left cheek. My left hand is going to spank her right cheek, and you can do it very gently so it doesn’t hurt her at all but it’s just a little bit shocking, a little bit nice, or if she does like pain then you can obviously amp up the speed and amp up the intensity for her.

12. Use Toys With Her

You can use something like a clit wand, which has a very deep rumble and can be quite intense on her clitoris, or she can use those little bullet vibrators or any vibrator that she has.

Place it on her clitoris while you’re doing doggystyle and then she’s getting the pleasure from the intercourse and you going inside her and she’s getting the pleasure to her clitoris as well and many women can actually orgasm from this.

One of the big downsides of doggystyle is it doesn’t really touch her clitoris at all so by adding toys into the mix you can give her some incredible orgasms.

Now that you’ve learned how to take doggystyle to the next level, go ahead and check out the grinding technique to make her cum during sex.

And don’t forget to download my free oral orgasm tutorial.