Make Her Cum During Sex With The Grinding Technique

There’s a sex technique that you never see in porn that is actually one of the most consistent ways that women are able to orgasm during sex. I call it the grinding technique and I’m going to show you exactly how to do it in this article.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator. And when it comes to having intercourse, there’s a big gap between women orgasming and guys orgasming. But this sex technique can help to bridge that gap a bit.

Why Most Women Don’t Orgasm From In-Out Thrusting

Generally, when people have sex, the guy’s focus is usually on this in-out penetration, which can feel really good for the penis because there’s a lot of friction and it can feel really good for the woman as well. However, it tends to be unlikely to bring her to orgasm.

One of the reasons that most women don’t orgasm from this in-out thrusting is that it’s not hitting the most sensitive spots in her body. Generally, it’s not going to hit the G-spot or the roof of her vagina with enough intensity to make her have a G-spot orgasm. And it’s not stimulating her clitoris, which is the most sensitive part of her body.

However, the grinding technique combines the intimacy of intercourse with your penis inside her with clit stimulation as well. And it’s really simple to do.

How To Do The Grinding Technique

All you need to do is when you are inside your partner, instead of focusing on this in-out motion, you actually want to go inside her and then focus on this up-down motion with the goal to rub your pubic bone or the lower end of your stomach against her clitoris.

So if we imagine your pubic bone, and her vaginal opening with her clitoris just above it, what you’re going to do is go inside her.

So your penis is inside her and then you can lean forward a little bit to really push your stomach against her clitoris. And then you’re going to grind up and down.

And so your penis will be going up and down inside her. This is going to stimulate the vaginal opening, which is one of her more sensitive areas. But it’s also going to stimulate her clitoris. And this is what can help bring her to orgasm.

To improve on this technique and make it feel even better for her, you can get some spit and apply it to the area that’s going to be rubbing against her clitoris or get some spit and put it on her clitoris directly. You can do the same thing with lubricant.

This is because the clitoris doesn’t really like being touched dry and the wetter it is, the better it’s going to feel. So if you’re rubbing up against it while it’s dry, yes, it will still feel good and she may be able to orgasm. But if it’s wet, everything’s going to move so much better and it’s going to feel so much better for her.

Grinding In Missionary And Cowgirl

Now, you can do this grinding in missionary position where you’re on top of her and you can really push into her. And you can also do this in the cowgirl position where you’re lying back and she’s on top of you.

And then while she’s on top of you, get her to move back and forth with her hips. She can even do some circular motions if she likes it, but most women will just rock back and forth.

Now, you can just allow her to rock back and forth by herself. But if you want to increase the intensity, there’s a couple of different ways to do that. Again, you can use spit to apply it down to that region to make everything wet or use lubricant.

But what you can also do in this position is actually arch your back to push that pubic bone area or the bottom of your stomach up. So it pushes harder against her clitoris.

Or another thing you can do is actually completely raise up your hips using the muscles in your legs to completely raise you off the ground. And this is going to cause the weight of her to push down on you more. So as she rocks back and forth, it can be more intense.

Help Her Grind

Another way to up the intensity of the grinding is to help her grind by grabbing onto her hips. Or you might want to grab onto one hip, put a hand on her stomach or lower down on her pubic bone region or even one hand on her back and on her lower stomach.

And you can move her back and forward or grab her hips and move her back and forward. This way, you can increase the speed and intensity more than she would be able to do herself.

You just need to be careful when doing this, especially if you’re more well endowed, because you’re going to be quite deep inside her. And sometimes it can be a bit too deep and a bit too intense.

For many of my partners, this has been the primary way that they orgasm during intercourse.

Build Her Up With Intercourse

Another great way to make her orgasm during intercourse, which is a little bit different from the grinding technique, is to, again, build her up with your regular intercourse or maybe even some of the grinding. But if you find that the grinding is not enough, what you can do is build her up with intercourse.

And then when she’s close, you can actually pull out of her and put your fingers inside her and go down on her and lick her clit and give her an orgasm that way.

If you want to learn the exact techniques to do this, then I’ve got a free tutorial, which you can download. In that tutorial, I share with you the exact way to do this technique. And honestly, I found it to be one of the most consistent ways to bring women to orgasm.

Do It At Any Point During Intercourse

And you can do this grinding technique at any point during intercourse. So you can just start intercourse and start really slowly and start with the thrusting, but maybe not too hard or too vigorous to really warm up her clitoris and get blood flowing into the area. Because the more aroused she is, the more blood that flows into the area, the better everything is going to feel.

So you can do it at the beginning to warm her up. You can do it in the middle as a break from harder penetration as well.

Or what you can do, which can really help bring a lot of women to orgasm, is you can be having sex and having intercourse and maybe you’re focusing on the in-out motion and you’re trying different positions and enjoying the feeling of each other. And you’re building up in intensity.

As you build her up in intensity, you can feel that it’s starting to get really intense for her. She’s really enjoying it. She’s heightened in her pleasure, but maybe she’s unlikely to cum in the current position that you’re in.

What you can do is, while you’re being vigorous, shift to this grinding and you can do quite hard grinding and even quite quick grinding. It’s not really quick like when you go in and out of her, but you can do some intimate rhythmic grinding and you can push really hard against her.

This will depend on your partner. Some women like it softer, some women like it harder and some women like it really fucking hard. I don’t know how that doesn’t hurt you that we are pushing so hard.

Make sure that you communicate with your partner throughout all of this and be in tune with their breath and with their moaning and with their state of pleasure so you can work out what they like.

It can even be a great idea to talk to your partner about this technique and say to them, “Hey, I’ve learned this grinding technique that apparently can feel good for you. I’d love to try it with you and see how it feels.” And then you can explore it together and you can get her feedback as to what she likes or what she maybe doesn’t like.

But with this technique, she’s going to be so much more likely to orgasm during intercourse.

For more tips on how to have better sex with your partner, check out this video on the best thrusting techniques or go ahead and go to my website at passionately.com and check out my courses over there so you can learn how to become the best she’s ever had.