9 Ways To Give Her a Clitoral Orgasm

The clitoris is the most sensitive spot in a woman’s body. And if you want to give your partner an orgasm, one of the easiest and best ways to do that is through stimulating the clitoris.

In this article, I’m going to show you different ways that you can give her a clitoral orgasm. And it’s the last technique in this article that is literally the most powerful way to give your partner an orgasm and the most likely way that you’re going to be able to give them back-to-back orgasms. So read all the way through to learn that one.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and I’m passionate about helping you give more pleasure and more orgasms to your partner.

Now, before you get into these clitoral orgasm techniques, it’s really important that you warm up your partner first. The clitoris is full of erectile tissue, just like the penis. And the more that your partner gets aroused and gets warmed up, the more the clitoris will become engorged and erect and everything will start to feel better.

If you try and do these techniques on a partner who isn’t warmed up, who isn’t aroused, they’re not going to feel as good and they’re likely not going to lead to orgasm.

To warm up your partner, start slow and pay attention to the entirety of their vulva, touching them all over or licking them all over and working your way in towards the clitoris. You can tease your partner in the beginning, get them really antsy and excited for you so that when you do finally touch the clitoris, it’s going to feel really good.

I also really like the idea of, in the beginning, taking your partner through these waves of pleasure. We communicate a lot with the techniques that we use. And if we go in there hard and fast, we’re saying to our partner, “I want you to cum really quickly.”

And for many women, that’s going to put a lot of pressure in their head that they feel like they need to cum in order to please you. And that’s going to make it more difficult for them to cum.

However, if we keep this idea of waves of pleasure in our mind, we can communicate to our partner that we are taking our time down here. We’re just taking you on a journey, on an adventure of pleasure, and you can relax into it.

So you can build them up and then bring it back down again, maybe build them up a bit more and bring them back down using lots of different techniques.

And then when it comes time and you actually want to bring your partner to orgasm, usually consistency is key. It’s about finding that technique that they really love in that moment, staying consistent with it. Even if your hands are getting sore or your mouth is getting sore, keep the rhythm, keep consistent in order to bring them to orgasm.

So with all that in mind, let’s look at the nine ways to give her a clitoral orgasm.

1. Lick Her Clit Rhythmically

This is not the fast up and down or side to side that you see in porn, but generally you’re going to be using more of the middle part of your tongue. And rather than applying light and quick pressure, you’re applying a firmer pressure and you’re rhythmically going up and down on the clitoris.

You may be going side to side or you could be doing circles on the clitoris as well. Stay in tune with your partner and their breathing to find out which speed they like best and which pressure they like best.

But this consistent rhythm can help bring many women to orgasm.

2. Lick The Clit Quickly

Now, this is more similar to what you see in porn. However, I do advise a bit of a change to what you see, because generally what you see in porn is the guy will have his head to the side so the camera can actually visualize it and he’ll just poke his tongue out and he’ll lick the clit like that.

However, there’s much better ways to do it and you want to bury your face in there so a camera wouldn’t really be able to see what you’re doing.

If you’re licking up and down on the clit, I like to go from the middle part of my tongue towards the tip and lick up and down that way. If you’re going side to side, you are using more of the tip of your tongue in order to do that.

Or you can do what Erik Everhard calls the T-cross, which is where you go up and down and that’s your most consistent rhythm. And every now and then you mix in a side to side in the same speed and then switch back to up and down in order to keep that same rhythm, but to add some diversity in the way that things feel so it doesn’t get boring for her or it doesn’t get overstimulating.

Now, it’s really important that if you’re going to lick the clitoris quickly like this, your partner needs to already be fully aroused and be warmed up as well. If you just go in there straight away trying to do these techniques, it’s probably not going to feel really good for her. It could be a bit uncomfortable or even painful or it could communicate to her that she needs to cum really quickly for you.

So I like to save these techniques after I’ve already warmed her up, built her up, taken her through those waves of pleasure, then when it’s time to bring her to orgasm, then I start going quickly on the clit.

3. Suck The Clitoris

There’s actually toys out there that are designed to mimic the sucking of the clitoris with air pulses and they’re some of the most popular clit stimulation toys, with some absolutely rave reviews.

In order to suck the clitoris, there’s a couple of different things that you can do. You can simply suck in the head of the clitoris itself and what you can do is to put the palm of your hand on your partner’s pubic bone, just below their stomach, just above their vulva.

Put your hand there and apply a light amount of pressure and pull your hand back a little bit towards their stomach, which will pull the hood of the clitoris back to help reveal the clitoris so you can suck it directly.

You can do little sucking in and out on the head of the clitoris, kind of like you’re sucking a penis, or you can suck more of the clitoris into your mouth and at the same time you can lick the clitoris while you’re sucking.

You can just hold the clitoris in your mouth, so suck in and then lick at the same time, or you can do a suction motion, in and out suction, whilst combining licking, and all of this can feel really good.

It’s just going to depend on your partner. You need to find what techniques they like and what feels good for them, but if you try each of these you’re likely going to find something that they enjoy.

4. Combine Clit Stimulation With G-Spot Stimulation

Honestly, it’s one of the most consistent ways that I’ve found to be able to bring my partners to orgasm.

So putting your finger inside your partner using the come here motion in order to stimulate the G-spot while you pleasure the clitoris at the same time and doing that rhythmically.

If you want to learn the exact details of how to do this and how to give your partner some incredible orgasms and even give your partner orgasms in under a minute, then I’ve got a free tutorial where I share exactly how to do this.

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5. Missionary Grinding

Moving away from oral sex, this technique is during sex and penetration.

Now, missionary position is probably the position that you’re going to spend most of the time in. It can be very intimate with your partner, but a big mistake that a lot of guys make is when they’re doing missionary position they’re focusing on the in out motion of their penis in the vagina.

So they’re thrusting in a way that their penis is coming out and then going in and this can feel really good for people with penises. However, for most women this in and out can feel nice but it’s not going to bring them to orgasm.

What is more likely to bring them to orgasm is clitoral grinding in this missionary position.

So rather than focusing all your energy on thrusting and going in and out, what you want to do is go inside your partner and then you almost want to lean forward a bit so that their clitoris is pushing against your pubic bone.

So imagine that your penis is going into her vulva and your pubic bone is just above it.

What you want to do is have your penis going in but your pubic bone is going to push against their clitoris and then you’re going to do an up and down motion with your body in order to grind her clitoris on your pubic bone.

So if the penis is inside, you’re kind of going up and down with your body, which is honestly not going to feel as good for you, but the point of this position is not for it to feel great for you but that it’s able to give her a clitoral orgasm.

So you can mix in the in and out, which feels good for you and can feel nice for her, and then you can shift into this more locked in position and then grinding up against her clitoris in different ways.

Not all women can orgasm like this, but many women can and they’re much more likely to orgasm this way than through that in out thrusting alone.

6. Cowgirl Grinding

Rather than being in the missionary position with you on top, you’re lying down and she is sitting on top of you and she’s going to grind back and forth on you.

So when she’s on top, rather than going up and down so that you’re getting that in out motion, she’s going to sit on top of you and then she’s going to grind backwards and forwards, again so her clitoris rubs against your pubic bone.

And what you can do in this position as the man is you can put your hands on her hips, or you can put a hand on her hip and one on her back, or even one on her stomach and her back, and you can rock her back and forth in order to create that grinding sensation.

Again, this is not going to feel as good for you, but the point of this position is to give your partner pleasure.

And a pro tip for this position is to take some spit or take some lubricant and apply it to your pubic bone or the bottom of your stomach region so that when she’s grinding and her clit is rubbing up against you, it’s going to be really wet in that area and it’s going to feel a lot better. The clit doesn’t like being stimulated dry, so the wetter it is the better it’s going to feel for her.

You can start slow and then you can build her up and bring her to orgasm in this position. You just need to sometimes be careful in this position because your penis can go deeper inside her and it can hurt. This obviously depends on penis size, but just be careful and always check in with your partner.

7. Mutual Masturbation

Let her touch herself and pleasure herself while you’re there with her, kissing her and touching her body and getting involved as well.

Just like how we know how to masturbate and get ourselves off quite easily, many women are the same and they know exactly how to touch themselves in ways that are likely to bring them to orgasm. But you can still be a part of this process and you can make this a heightened experience by connecting with her at the same time.

You can tell her to touch herself and you can really enjoy watching her. You can even touch yourself while she’s doing it. You can kiss her, you can touch her entire body, you can lick her nipples or you can even touch lightly on the outside of her vulva to add sensation to the masturbation that she’s doing.

You can even lick around the vulva while she’s touching herself and this can give her an incredible orgasm, and trust me, she’s not going to be disappointed that she gave herself the orgasm through masturbation, she’s going to love it because it’s going to be heightened because you’re adding to that pleasure, and it’s a way that the two of you get to connect with each other.

Just make sure to encourage her, let her know how sexy it is and how much you love it, because many women can actually get nervous doing this, so you just want to relieve those anxieties as much as possible.

8. Using Your Fingers

You can stimulate her clitoris with your fingers and give her an orgasm that way. I find fingers to be less consistent than using my mouth or using the grinding during sex, but it is definitely still possible and I’ve given women some amazing orgasms with my fingers.

I’ve written a full article on how to stimulate her clit with your fingers, so go ahead and check that out if you want to learn exactly how to do it.

Just make sure that when you’re pleasuring her clit with your fingers that you wet your fingers. Remember, the clit doesn’t like being touched dry. I like to spit on my fingers or you can use lubricant when you go down there, and there’s lots of different ways you can use your fingers to give your partner a clitoral orgasm.

Some of my favorites are doing circles with my fingers or sliding up and down with my fingers, or really building my partner up with G-spot stimulation or even through intercourse and then, right as they’re about to reach orgasm, coming out and using my fingers quite quickly on her clitoris.

9. Using Toys

This is the technique which I promised to be the most powerful way to give her clitoral orgasms and the easiest way to give her multiple back-to-back orgasms.

And ideally I recommend that you use a clit wand, something like this, or the Hitachi Magic Wand is actually the most powerful and popular one.

This is the Satisfyer brand, which is also really good, and what this does is it gives a very deep rumble and intense stimulation to her clit.

You can also use a variety of other vibrators which vary in size, all the way down to those little bullet vibrators, which can still pack a lot of punch, and those bullet vibrators can be better in some circumstances, but the most success that I’ve had has been with these clit wand vibrators.

Now you can use them solo, you can use them on your partner, applying them to their clit, and you’re in control of the pressure and you can do little movements and bring them to orgasm that way. You can also combine it with G-spot stimulation at the same time, so you can finger your partner, and you can combine it with sex as well, so you can be penetrating your partner and they can use a vibrator on their clitoris.

Now the downside of these clit wand vibrators is that if you’re trying to penetrate, it’s so thick that it kind of gets in the way, so in those circumstances the little bullet vibrators can be better, but certain positions, for example doggy style, can be easier, where she can apply this to her clit while you’re penetrating her from behind.

Honestly, if you haven’t used toys with your partner I highly recommend it; it can be one of the easiest ways to bring them to orgasm, and if you’ve got a partner who struggles to orgasm with you, then adding in toys to the mix can really push them over the edge and help them to orgasm more consistently.

I’ve linked to this Satisfyer as well as the Hitachi Magic Wand, but there’s lots of great toys out there that you can try.

Clitoral orgasms are just one way to give your partner orgasms. You can also give your partner orgasms through G-spot stimulation, so go ahead and check out this video on the different ways that you can give your partner G-spot orgasms, and don’t forget to sign up for the free tutorial where I show you the most consistent way to give your partner some of the best orgasms of their life.