Rimming 101: How to Lick Ass Properly

Licking butt or having your butt licked, also known as a rim job, honestly, I think is one of the best things in the world. If you’re squeamish about this, if it’s not something that you want to do, click away from this article now, this isn’t for you.

But for those of you who are interested in either giving a rim job or receiving a rim job, then stick around because when it comes to ass play, there’s a lot of pleasure that can be given and received. And there’s a little secret technique with rimming that adds another level and feels fucking amazing. So keep reading to find out what that is.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, coach and educator, and I’m passionate about giving you the tools you need to become the best lover possible. And being able to lick ass correctly is one of the tools in your arsenal that can really take the pleasure that you’ll give your partner to the next level.

It can help partners to orgasm if they’re struggling to reach that. It can heighten their orgasm because you’re stimulating both their genitals and the anus. And overall, it just feels really good because there’s actually a lot of nerve endings in the anus for people of all genders.

I have both given and received many a rim job. So the tips and tricks that I’m going to share with you in this article to give the most amount of pleasure possible through a rim job isn’t just from theory, but also comes from a lot of personal exploration, both in the giving and the receiving department.

Do You Need To Be Squeaky Clean?

Now, when it comes to rim jobs, some people like it to be squeaky clean down there before they’re going to rim their partner or before they’re going to receive any rimming. And if that’s the case, that’s completely fine. You can go ahead and shower before you do this.

You might want to go ahead and shave the area as well, so it’s all nice and smooth. And if you’re really worried about going down there and it gives you the ick, then you can use a barrier and you can cut up condoms to use them as a protective shield.

However, some people are completely fine with it just being regular down there and their partner not showering beforehand. And some people actually prefer it that way.

And that might sound a bit intense to some of you and others of you reading this are thinking, yeah, that’s me. And if that’s you, then that’s completely fine as well. If you don’t need your partner to shower, then more power to you.

Talk To Your Partner Ahead Of Time

If you’ve never done rimming with your partner, it can be a good idea to talk to them ahead of time. I will share some ways that you can bring it up in the moment when you’re having sex with someone if you haven’t had that opportunity to talk to them.

However, I do think it’s a good idea to bring it up because for some people, it’s a no go zone. And some people can be very nervous about receiving it. They’re worried that they’re not clean enough down there.

And so by talking about it, they can be reassured that you’re really into it. And this is something that’s going to be pleasurable for both of them.

How you bring it up to your partner is completely up to you. I personally like to let my partners know that this is something that I absolutely love.

If we’re talking about sex and the things that we enjoy, then I can let them know that something that I absolutely love is licking ass and it just turns me on a lot and something that I love to do. Or I can let them know that it feels fucking amazing when I have my ass licked so they know they have permission to go down there if they want.

Or you can be more direct with your partner and simply say to them, hey, I’d really like to try this. How do you feel about that?

How To Start Rimming

To start rimming and testing the waters with your partner and seeing how they feel about it is really simple.

If you’re going down on someone with a vulva, then you can be eating them out and then you can slide your face a bit further down towards their bum and you can lick their bum from there.

When you do this, it’s going to be pretty light touch because it’s hard to get down there if they’re lying down. But you’ll start to see their reaction and whether they enjoy it or not.

If someone doesn’t enjoy it, then they’re going to clench up and kind of move away and you can tell that obviously this isn’t something that they’re comfortable with and you might need to have a conversation.

However, if they do enjoy it, then they might let you know that with moaning. Or some people who really love it and who have done it in the past will actually go ahead and lift their legs up to give you better access as a way of saying, yes, I enjoy this. Keep doing it.

You can also lift your partner’s legs up to kind of help you get down there a bit better.

And the same is true for if you’re going down on someone with a penis. So you can be giving them a blowjob. You can then start licking their balls and then begin licking their perineum or the area between their balls and their bum.

You can begin to work your way down slowly and then gauge their reaction as you get closer to their bum.

There’s a lot of guys who are very concerned about having their bum played with because they think it’s going to make them gay, which is absolutely ridiculous. Your anus just has lots of nerve endings and it can feel really good no matter what your sexual orientation.

But some guys might freak out a little bit and again, you’ll probably get that clenching. You’ll get them moving away and they’ll be like, what are you doing?

And then you can just let them know, I love licking ass. It can be extremely pleasurable. And would you like to try it?

And if they say no, then that’s completely fine. You can go on to something else or maybe you work your way down there and they do enjoy it. And you can continue to pleasure them with your hand as you start rimming them.

What To Do With Your Tongue

When it comes to what exactly do you do with your tongue when you’re down there, there’s a few different things that you can do.

However, I will say that I found that with the anus, it’s not as sensitive or particular as when you’re going down on someone with a vulva. When you’re licking your partner’s vagina and clitoris, there’s very specific techniques that are more likely to feel good for them and more likely to bring them to orgasm.

If you want to learn exactly what those techniques are and what I found to be the most consistent way to bring women to orgasm after orgasm, then I do have a free tutorial on exactly how to do that. To get access to that free tutorial, as well as my newsletter, where I share loads of tips on how you can be a better lover (many of those tips I don’t share here on YouTube), simply go to passionately.com/oral. Go ahead and check that out now if you want to learn how to give your partner some of the best orgasms of their life.

However, when it comes to licking the anus, there’s not as many nerve endings down there. And while it’s going to feel really good, it’s unlikely to bring people to orgasm. And so the techniques that you use down there, I found to be less specific.

Everything’s just going to feel kind of nice and really nice. It’s not going to be that heightened level of orgasm.

So what exactly can you do? Well, one of the things that you can do that’s really nice and can warm people up is go down there with little kisses and kiss the surrounding area. Lightly kiss their bum cheeks and then work your way in and you can kiss their hole.

This light, gentle touch can feel really nice. And then you can work your way up to licking.

Now, when it comes to licking, there’s a few different things that you can do. And they’re probably pretty obvious to you. You can use a flat tongue and lick up and down the hole.

Something that can feel really good is you can actually go ahead and circle the hole with the tip of your tongue. And you can also go ahead and poke your tongue inside that hole as well, which can feel really good. And you can mix up all of these things as well.

When you’re putting your tongue inside them, you can go in just very shallow in and out. So you’re not really pushing on the inner sphincters at all. You can also push deeper inside them and do that slowly.

It actually takes quite a lot of strength in your tongue in order to push all the way in. And if you want to get deeper inside them, a really good tip is to actually use your hands to spread apart their cheeks so that you can get closer so you can get deeper inside them.

And you can also tongue fuck them as well. So you can go in and out quite quickly.

You can check in with them and see what they like. But as I said, most of these things are just going to give them a really pleasant feeling. It’s not going to be really intense for them or overwhelming.

The only thing that could maybe be a little bit too much for some people is if you’re putting your tongue inside them. And if they’re really tight or really nervous, if you’re stretching them too much, then that could hurt.

Combine Your Tongue With Your Fingers

And as I promised, there’s a little technique that can add another level and feel fucking amazing for some people. People have done this to me and I’m like, what are you doing? Don’t stop.

And that is to combine using your tongue with your fingers.

So rather than just pleasuring their hole with your tongue, get your fingers and make sure that they’re really wet. So spit on them or spit on their hole. And then there’s a couple of different things that you can do.

So one of them is you can just take one finger and you can kind of play with their hole with your finger while you’re using your tongue as well.

Another thing that you can do is to take two fingers and what you do is you put it on their hole and you spread your fingers apart in a V and then you’re licking in between your fingers and you can move your fingers around, pleasuring their anus as you lick in the middle and you can lick by going in and out of them or you can be licking up and down.

And the last thing that you can do that can feel really good as well is you can actually finger their hole.

Now, if they haven’t been fingered in the past, then what I recommend is you only go in about up to the nail because this isn’t going to push past that inner sphincter and give them that sort of tense feeling. So what you would do is with your finger, you just go in just a little bit up to the nail and you’ll feel it when you’re doing it.

And then you can do little circles with your finger slowly, not really fast, or do up and down as you lick around your finger as well. It’s a little bit difficult to do it and lick at the same time, but it feels really good.

And if they really like the finger, then one thing you can do is put the finger all the way inside and you can pleasure them by doing the come here motion or if you’re fingering a male, then you can go all the way in to feel their prostate. And as you’re doing that, you can lick around your finger as well. It is quite difficult to get your face in there, but it can feel absolutely amazing.

Give Your Partner Orgasms While You’re Rimming Them

And you can actually give your partner orgasms while you’re rimming them as well.

If it’s someone with a penis, then they can masturbate or you can give them a hand job while you’re rimming them and they can have some incredible orgasms like that. Definitely some of the best orgasms in my life have been had in that situation.

Or if you’re going down on someone with a vulva, you can actually finger them and stimulate the G-spot while you’re licking them. And to learn that exact fingering technique to give them orgasms, don’t forget to download your free tutorial.

Or alternatively, instead of fingering them and stimulating the G-spot, you can stimulate their clitoris with your fingers while you’re rimming them. They can masturbate and touch their clitoris themselves. Or you can use toys with your partner and get them to have an orgasm with toys.

And because you’re rimming them and adding that extra stimulation, it can provide them with a really different orgasmic experience. Or you can do everything, rim them, finger them, and stimulate the clit at the same time.

And what you’ll find is that if your partner is having these orgasms while you’re rimming them, they’re going to begin associating rimming with intense pleasure. And over time, the rimming can actually feel better and better and better. And they’re also less likely to get nervous because they know how much you enjoy it and they know how good it can feel.

Rimming can be absolutely amazing. And it’s one of the dirtier things that women wish guys did. And if you want to learn what the other dirty things are that girls wish guys did, go ahead and watch this video now. And don’t forget to get access to my advanced tutorial where I show you how to give your partner some of the best orgasms of their life.