The Right Way To Finger a Butthole For Maximum Pleasure

The anus has a lot of different nerve endings both on the outside as well as inside and through fingering your butthole you can give your partner some of the most incredible pleasure and even mind blowing orgasms no matter what their gender however, if you finger it incorrectly it can lead to excruciating pain. So in this video, I’m going to show you how to approach it correctly, and how to avoid some of the common mistakes that people make. The first really important thing is to make sure that your hands are clean and trimmed. So if possible, you want to have your nails be quite short, it is possible to do it with longer nails, and I’ll talk about that later. But just have them well trimmed and manicured. You don’t want to have a lot of dead skin or rough skin on the sides here are rough jagged nails as that can catch when we’re fingering our partner and feel quite painful. So keep them well manicured and keep them clean. When beginning to finger our partner it can be great just to start on the outside of the anus without having to put our finger all the way in straightaway, just touching the outside softly with either dry or wet hands can feel really good, we can go around the hole, we can go back and forth over the hole, we can kind of just push in a little bit, but not putting our whole finger in just putting the pad of our finger in there. When we want to take the next step and put our finger all the way inside. It’s really important that our finger is extremely lubricated, you can use any of the water or oil based lubricants, you can get specific anal based lubricant or I just like to use coconut oil. Or alternatively, if it’s just in the moment, and don’t have anything lying around, then just go ahead and spit on your fingers and you spit over the area and make sure you cover your entire finger with spit on both sides as well. My number one rule is you cannot use too much spit or too much lubrication. When doing this. When you’re ready to put your finger inside your partner. There’s two different techniques you can use based on how long your nails are. So for someone with short nails like me, what you can actually do is kind of fold your finger in like that. So you kind of put the pad of your finger over your partner’s hole, and then you kind of push the finger in. And because my nails are short, it’s not really going to grab on anything as I enter. However, if you have long nails, as you do that, it’s actually going to catch and grab and maybe scratch your partner. So if you have long nails, you actually want to enter nail first, and then go in when we start fingering, we want to go in just the tip up to about the first knuckle or maybe a bit before it because there’s actually two sphincters inside the anus, so you’ve got the one on the outside. And so by putting our finger in just a little bit, we’re expanding the one on the outside, but we’re not really expanding the one on the inside too much. And this can feel pleasurable just here, we can go in circles here or backwards and forwards with our partner. And then when our partner is ready to have our full finger inside them, there’s a couple of different approaches that we can take to this one is to go super slowly. So allow your partner to relax and adjust encourage your partner to push out these muscles, which is going to make it easier for you to slide in. So we can go in super slowly, or we can go in and kind of one smooth motion so we can go in smoothly, we’re not going super fast and jabbing in we’re just smoothly going in. Once we get past that second knuckle, then we can just hold it inside and wait for our partner to relax before we start stimulating the area. And the third technique is to actually hold our finger steady and let our partner control the action and they can actually back up onto us. And that way they can control it completely. And if it’s too much for them, then they can pull back so we just stay steady. Once you’re inside, you want to go ahead and use the come here motion, if we imagine that our partners lying on their back with their belly facing up then by using the come here motion we can simulate the prostate on a male which has kind of a walnut size shape and is a bit firmer than the surrounding areas. So we can simulate their prostate which can be extremely pleasurable for them. Or if it’s a female, then doing this come here motion can actually stimulate their a spot and give them a spot orgasms and can just feel really good for them. When we are fingering them. You want to make sure that your nail isn’t catching as this can be extremely painful for them and can cause tears. So you really want to make sure that you are pushing with the soft pad of your finger and you’re not catching that nail. Alternatively, if you want to go even deeper inside your partner, if we imagine that they’re on their back with their belly facing up, you actually turn your finger around the other way. And if you push down with your finger, you can actually get deeper inside your partner that direction. You can then use the come here motion or you can go up and down with your finger or even side to side or do circles with Your finger, always communicate with your partner and see what they like when it’s time to come out. You want to come out smoothly, not too quick as that can be very jarring for them and also not too slowly as that can cause them to tense up. So you want to come out in a smooth motion and communicate with your partner. If it has gotten dry on the outside since you’ve been in there, then get some spit and lube it up around there. Just so your finger doesn’t catch on the way out. And just remember while anal play is really fun, not every day is an anal day some days your partner will be relaxed and be able to take you really easily while other days they will be tighter and that can actually lead to tearing if they’re not able to relax and let go. So play it by ear communication is absolutely key. And if you want to learn more about how to pleasure your partner and have some of the best sex of your life, then go ahead and check out my video on how to find the g spot every single time or the 10 best G Spot stroking techniques.