The Best Blowjobs Always Have These 10 Things In Common

There’s regular blowjobs, and then there’s what the actual fuck blowjobs.

All of the best blowjobs I’ve received had these 10 things in common. We’re going to get very descriptive in this article, so if that makes you a little squeamish, click away now.

But if you want to upgrade your brain game and become the throat goat, then you need to know these things.

1. Intense Enthusiasm

All of the best blowjobs come from women who absolutely love giving blowjobs, and you can tell that they love giving blowjobs.

They’re super keen to do it, you don’t have to ask for it. You also don’t feel like you’re in a rush because you can tell that they’re having a really good time down there.

And there’s so many different ways that you can show that you’re enthusiastic. You can do it with your techniques by starting slow and taking your time.

You can moan and groan and make noises and move your body in a way that shows that you’re getting turned on.

You can compliment his penis and tell him how much you love it or how good it tastes or how much you love it in your mouth. And that is going to stroke his ego to the nth degree.

You can make eye contact with your partner.

And some of the best blowjobs that I had, I could tell she was enthusiastic because she was taking my penis deep in her mouth. Not necessarily for my pleasure, but just because I could tell she loved it.

2. Sloppy

When I think of all of the best blowjobs that I’ve had in my life, they’ve all been extremely sloppy. And there’s not one blowjob that I can think of that was incredible that was dry.

And by dry, I mean the spit never really leaves her mouth. So the hand on the penis is dry skin against dry skin as she’s giving the blowjob.

But the best blowjobs are extremely sloppy. You’ve got spit going everywhere.

Often she’ll spit on her hands to make the shaft of the penis completely wet. And she’ll even get spit around the balls in that area.

And when everything is soaked and covered in spit, it feels so much better than when it’s dry.

And if there’s spit coming out of her mouth, dripping onto her chest and onto the floor and she doesn’t care, it’s incredibly sexy. Because going back to point number one, it means she’s very enthusiastic.

3. Actively Suck

Many women will give blowjobs and the penis is going in and out of their mouth, but they’re not actually adding any suction to it.

So if your cheeks aren’t going in, then chances are you’re not adding any suction to your blowjobs.

And adding a bit of suction can make things feel so much better.

By adding suction, you can also add pulsations of pressure. So by this, I mean that as you suck in, you’re adding pressure by adding more suction. And then as the penis comes out, you release that suction a bit.

Then there’s more suction and less suction. So you’ve got this throbbing of pressure.

4. Amazing Tongue Skills

Some of the best blowjobs come from women who just know how to use their tongue in unique and interesting ways where you’re going, “What exactly are you doing? I don’t know what you’re doing, but it feels so good.”

One of the things that you can do is lick the frenulum. So this is a string of skin that’s located on the underside of the head of the penis and connects the penis to the foreskin. But it’s also there on circumcised guys as well.

This area is extremely sensitive and licking this with your tongue can feel really good.

Other amazing things people have done with their tongue are moving their tongue around the head of the penis when it’s inside their mouth. Or if he’s uncircumcised, then putting the tongue actually underneath the foreskin and playing with the head of the penis there.

And something that’s really cool and honestly very impressive and has a wow factor to it is if you stick your tongue out and you can take him deep down your throat and you can actually lick his balls with your tongue while his penis is in your throat.

Oh, he’s going to love that.

5. The Right Speed

Generally, this means starting slow and building up.

Some of the worst blowjobs that I had were when the woman just went really quick all the time and she thought that quicker means better. And it just felt overstimulating and honestly felt uncomfortable and a little bit painful because it was too fast.

The best blowjobs hit that sweet spot where they’re not too fast and they’re not too slow, but it’s just the right speed and pace.

Every man is going to be different, so you need to work out what pace he likes. You can do this by simply paying attention to his noises and his breathing as you do different speeds.

Don’t ask him in the moment, “What speed do you like?” because that’s a very hard question to answer.

But what you can say is, “Tell me if you want faster or slower.” And as you’re doing it, he can either say “faster” or “slower”.

And then when you get the right speed, he’ll be like, “Yeah, that’s it.” And then you’ll know what speed to do.

6. The Right Amount Of Hand Pressure

Many women go too light on the hand pressure, which doesn’t give you enough stimulation. Or some women apply too much pressure.

And it’s not that she’s squeezing too tight, but the way that it grabs the skin as she pulls down can pull on that frenulum and it can actually be quite painful when she does that. If she yanks down, pulls that frenulum tight, oh, ow.

The best pressure tends to start light. So you begin with teasing in the beginning. You might do some feather-like touch.

And then you begin lightly as he begins to get hard. Then when he gets harder, you can increase the pressure.

And what I tend to find is the best pressure is a pulsating pressure. So what she’ll do is she’ll squeeze tighter on the way up, and then she’ll release a bit on the way down.

And remember, she’s sucking as well on the way down. So she’s increasing pressure with her mouth while decreasing it with her hand so that it doesn’t pull on that frenulum.

But also, the hand is very sloppy as well. So it’s sliding down the penis really easily. It’s not dry skin against dry skin.

Then squeezing coming back up, releasing and going back down. Not completely releasing, but just enough that it’s not pulling on the skin.

And this pulsating of pressure, oh, it feels so good.

7. Consistent Rhythm

And honestly, this should have been higher on the list.

It’s so frustrating when you’re getting a blowjob, and she’s constantly changing rhythm.

You don’t want it to be the same for the entirety of the blowjob, especially if it’s going to be a longer blowjob. But as you’re getting closer to orgasm, you do want some consistency with the rhythm.

So rather than going slow and then doing the fast head bob, and then your neck gets sore or your jaw gets sore, so you come out and then you masturbate him really hard and fast with your hand, and then you take him deep inside you and you stop doing any movement at all, this chopping and changing can sometimes just be too much and frustrating.

Great in the beginning because you’re getting a lot of different experiences, but as you’re building up, that consistent rhythm is really important.

And if you want to change rhythm, just don’t do it too quickly. So do the same rhythm for a while.

And then if you need a break, you can continue with the same rhythm with your hand. Or maybe if you want to go slower, you can slow it down and do that for a bit.

Or if you want to speed up, then slowly speed up and ramp it up rather than going from slow or an average speed to all of a sudden really fast and then slow again, ramp it up and ramp it down.

8. Endurance

I get it, your jaw gets sore, it can be painful to be down there and have your mouth open and doing all of this sucking.

But the best blowjobs are always the ones where she has the endurance and she can go long enough that you can actually orgasm.

Remember, just like any muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it’s going to get. So if you’re down there and your jaw is getting sore, if you push through, then your jaw is going to get stronger and you’ll build up endurance over time.

However, if you simply give up at the first sign of any soreness in your jaw, you’re never going to get better at that endurance and being able to last long enough to really give him one of the best blowjobs of his life.

And a great thing that you can do is if you need a break and your jaw is sore, you can come out, but you can continue to suck him using your lips.

So you can suck just the head of his penis and use your hands to give him the majority of the pleasure, but your mouth doesn’t have to be open for this.

Just stimulating the head with your mouth and using your sloppy hand for the rest of it, it almost feels like you’re deep in someone’s throat anyway.

9. Swallow At The End

Yes, pretty much every single guy loves it when you swallow and prefers it when you swallow over spitting.

Something about a woman swallowing is just incredibly sexy, incredibly ego-boosting and it is such a good way to top off what has already been a great blowjob.

Compare that to the feeling of a guy who’s just received a great blowjob, but as soon as he comes in her mouth, she runs off to the bathroom to spit it out or spits it into a tissue and she looks like she’s a bit disgusted.

As a guy, this gives you a yuck feeling inside because you can tell she doesn’t like the way that you taste and makes you a little self-conscious and while it doesn’t ruin the experience, it definitely doesn’t heighten the experience.

So, if you can and you’re willing and you want to give the best blowjob, then try to swallow his load.

If you don’t like the taste, the easiest way to swallow is when he orgasms and it’s pretty obvious when this is about to happen. Take him into the back of your throat and as he ejaculates, swallow it and it should honestly never touch your tongue or you might just get a little bit of the aftertaste.

Alternatively, if you can’t swallow or you really don’t want to swallow, something that is on par with swallowing or actually potentially maybe even better is letting him come on your face.

As a guy, if you’re receiving a blowjob and she says to you, “I really want you to come on my face,” you are like, “Oh my gosh, the heavens have opened. How did I get so lucky?”

Guys see it in porn so often, but they rarely, if ever, get to experience giving a girl a facial. So, if you let him come on your face, it’s really going to amplify his memory of that blowjob.

10. Keep Sucking After He Ejaculates

Now, you don’t want her to suck it at the same speed and the same intensity that she was doing to bring you to orgasm because after you orgasm as a guy, the area gets extremely sensitive.

However, if she slows down, decreases the pressure and the suction with her mouth and just continues to suck and play with your penis after you’ve ejaculated, it makes you feel really good as a guy because it’s almost like her saying, “I am sucking your penis, not just to get you off, but I’m sucking it because I love it and I love your penis in my mouth so much that I’m going to keep doing it even though I’m no longer trying to bring you to orgasm.”

And this really strokes your ego as a guy.

Emotionally, it feels absolutely incredible and physically it feels really good and really nice as well and it’s a great way to finish things off.

There you have the 10 things that the best blowjobs all have in common and the best blowjobs also avoid the biggest mistakes that people make when giving blowjobs. To learn what those mistakes are, go ahead and watch this video.

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