16 Incredible Pussy Licking Tips Women Wish You Knew

When it comes to licking pussy, a lot of guys aren’t great at it, and there’s some tips and techniques that women wish you knew that can give them some amazing pleasure and mind-blowing orgasms.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and eating pussy is one of my favorite things to do, and I’ve been told by multiple women that I’m the best they’ve ever had when it comes to licking pussy, or that they don’t usually come from head but they were able to with me.

I’m not perfect at giving head and there’s always room for improvement, but these 16 tips are going to help you to give better head and give more pleasure to your partner.

1. Get Her Aroused First

I need a constant reminder of this one because I’m so excited to get in there.

Rather than just diving in there straight for the vulva, take time to fully arouse her, not just in the moment but even leading up to it. So days before you see her, on the day that you see her, when you’re on the date, all of these can be great opportunities to arouse her and build sexual tension.

Then before you go down on her, spend time relaxing her, kissing her, getting her aroused. Spend time kissing her on the mouth and really connecting with her, and then you can work your way down, maybe kissing her ear and her neck, working down her body, play with her breasts, down to her stomach, get her really aroused and turned on and ready to receive you.

The more aroused that she is, the more blood flow is going to be in the area and the better everything’s going to feel. Also, the more aroused she is, the more relaxed her mind is going to be and the more she’s going to enjoy you.

2. Show Her That You Crave It

Now, as a guy, I absolutely love it when a girl goes down on me because she wants to and she craves it. It is such a turn-on when she wants to do it for her own pleasure, and the same is true for us when we’re eating pussy.

If we crave it, if we want it for our own pleasure because it turns us on, that’s going to show in the way that we interact with our partner. That’s then going to turn them on, that’s going to relax their mind and it’s going to allow them to enjoy things so much better.

Women often get in their head when you’re going down on them. They’re worried about how they smell, how they look, how they taste, how long it’s going to take, and so by you craving her and showing her that you crave her, you can ease all of those concerns.

You can even say things to her like, “I can’t wait to go down on you,” “Oh my god, you taste amazing,” or “You smell amazing,” or “You have such a beautiful pussy,” or you can moan and be like, “Yes, oh, I love licking you.”

All of these little things go towards making a better experience for her when she’s receiving head from you. And if you want to be really good at giving head, it’s not just about the techniques that you do on the vulva, which are important, but it’s about giving her an overall amazing experience where she feels sexy and she can enjoy the pleasure.

3. Have A Dominant Frame

I have heard some guys say that it’s beta to go down on a woman. I’ve absolutely never had that issue or even had that thought in my mind, because when I go down on her, it’s because I want her and I’m going to give her pleasure and take her on this ride.

So you can go down on her with a dominant frame where you get to give her this amazing pleasure, and there’s something so powerful about being able to control her pleasure and give her multiple orgasms with your mouth.

4. Tease The Fuck Out Of Her

Now, we get so excited to go down there and to give her pleasure that sometimes we forget that teasing is an important part of the process to get her turned on and get her aroused.

So rather than going straight in there and licking straight away, take your time, work your way down slowly, and then you can play with her upper thighs. You can work your way in towards her vulva but then skip over the vulva and then work your way with your mouth up her other thigh.

Then when it actually comes time to licking her, rather than going straight for the clit and the most sensitive part, you can start with the outer lips of the vulva. You can lick them lightly up and down the sides.

You can get her squirming and craving you, and when she starts to move her hips to try and push herself into you, then you can tell that she’s really turned on and really wants you. So then when you finally do lick her on the inside, from the bottom working your way up to her clit, oh, it feels so much better for her.

5. Pay Attention To The Labia

Women have the outer labia, or the outer lips, and the inner labia, or the inner lips, of the vulva, and these have different sensitivities depending on the woman, but for many women these can be extremely sensitive, and while licking these areas is unlikely to bring her to orgasm, it can feel really good for her.

Sometimes I just like to tilt my head to the side and make out with her vulva, almost like I was kissing her mouth. I’ll play with the outer lips and the inner lips, which can feel really good for her, before I move on to focusing more on the clitoris.

Now, this will depend on the woman, as I have heard some women say that they just don’t really have much sensitivity in these areas at all, but for me, I found a lot of my partners like it, especially in the beginning.

6. Use A Flat Tongue

This tip is a big one and fixes one of the most common mistakes that guys make.

See, when guys go down on women, what they’ll usually do is make their tongue really sharp and pointy and go back and forth on the clit straight away. While this can be good when she’s very close to orgasm, it generally doesn’t feel very good in the beginning.

In fact, I find the best way to start giving her pleasure is to use a flat tongue. So rather than having a pointed tongue and focusing on her clit in the beginning, make your tongue extremely flat. Start from the bottom, down near her vaginal opening, and then work your way up to her clit.

What I like to do with my flat tongue is start down near the vaginal opening and lick up in between her inner lips up towards her clitoris, and I’ll touch her clitoris with the middle of my tongue, not the point of my tongue, and then slide my tongue up over the clitoris. I’ll come off her body, go back down and start again.

I found that this is one of the best techniques to get started, and it can also give you time to work out, okay, where exactly does she like it.

If you’re going slowly, then maybe she makes noises right down near her vaginal opening and you can tell that that’s really sensitive for her, or maybe it’s as you come up and you’re right underneath the clit that it feels really good for her, or maybe when you’re on the clit specifically, or maybe when you’re on the hood of the clitoris she really likes it.

So by doing the flat tongue, not only does it feel really good for her and begin to work her up slowly, but you can also begin to get an idea of where she’s really sensitive and what she likes. Once I find out what she likes and where she likes it, then I can really begin to shift my techniques and focus on the things that are going to bring her to orgasm.

There’s one technique in particular that I found brings so many women to orgasm rather quickly. If you want to learn that technique, I’ve got a full video tutorial on it. Just click the link to get access to it now.

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7. Use The Middle Of Your Tongue

When going down on them, pleasuring the clitoris with the middle part of your tongue rather than the tip can give her some amazing pleasure, and you can also have a lot of control as well.

In the beginning, you can use the middle of your tongue and just place it over her clitoris and hardly move it at all. You may want to move it up and down a little bit, or back and forth a little bit, or in tiny little circles, but we’re not talking about the big flicking of the tongue that you see in porn, but you’re just applying a bit of pressure to the clitoris and you’re moving the tongue around slowly and you’re gauging your partner’s response at the same time to see what they like.

By using the middle of the tongue, you can encompass the whole clit and stimulate all aspects of it, but also you can apply more pressure to the clit, which some women really like.

8. Touch Her Entire Body

Make this a really connected experience rather than just honing in and focusing on the vulva.

Connect with your partner while you’re doing this and use your hands to give her sensations all over her body. So you can run them up and down her thighs, you can touch her stomach, you can go up to her ribs, up to her breasts and caress them while you’re going down on her, you can hold her hands as well while you’re going down on her, and you can communicate so much through your hands and the way that you touch her to create this better overall experience.

Your hands can also be a way to show her how turned on you are. So when you’re going down on her, you can move with your body, you can moan to show her you’re having a great time, but when you’re really into it, you can also kind of grab onto her stomach or onto her waist and her body, pull her into you and be like, “Yes, I am loving this.”

Women love it when you use your hands, so use them to the best of your ability.

9. Take Her On A Fucking Adventure

So many guys go down on her for a token amount of time with a clear goal to try and make her orgasm as quickly as possible. This tends to put a lot of stress in her mind that she feels like she needs to orgasm in order to make you happy.

Instead of doing this, take the approach of taking her on a journey, taking her on an adventure. You’re going down there to give her pleasure, she doesn’t need to orgasm, it will just go wherever it goes.

You’re just going on an adventure together, and sure, that might go straight to orgasm in some circumstances, especially if she’s really turned on and gagging for it, but a lot of the time it’s not going to lead to orgasm or it’s not going to lead straight to orgasm.

You can start slow and sensual and then build things up and then get her to a high point, but drop her back down and get slow and sensual again, then build her back up again. Use multiple different techniques and different intensities to keep her guessing and keep her not sure exactly where it’s going to go, but to keep her feeling good the entire time.

If she feels like you’ve got a playbook and a step-by-step guide that you do this and then that, especially if you’re with a regular partner and you’re going down on her consistently and it’s the same every single time, she’s going to start to get bored and it’s going to be predictable. But by mixing things up and taking her on a journey, going with the flow, she’s never going to know exactly how it’s going to go, and that can make it more exciting and more enticing.

To be able to take her on this flow, you want to have multiple techniques in your toolkit to give her incredible pleasure, and again you can learn more of those techniques with my free oral sex tutorial. Click the link to sign up and get access to that tutorial now.

10. Work Out If She Likes Eye Contact

Some women really like eye contact when you’re going down on them and it really turns them on and gets them going, and then other women really don’t like it and they find it awkward, so find out with your partner whether or not they like it.

One way you can begin to gauge whether they like it or not is make eye contact with them while you’re going down on them. If you notice that they lock eyes with you and they maintain that eye contact, chances are they really enjoy it.

However, if you notice they get eye contact with you and then they quickly look away and look up or close their eyes, chances are that they don’t like eye contact and they find it awkward when you’re looking at them, because they don’t know what faces they’re making when you’re giving them pleasure. So if they feel like that, then it can be a good idea to not give them eye contact.

And if you’re not sure, then simply talk to your partner and ask them, “Hey, do you like eye contact when I’m going down on you, or do you prefer it if I just focus on your vulva?”

11. Suck On Her Clit

You don’t want to go in there straight away and suck really, really hard on her clit, because that can actually hurt her, and some of the skin around the clit can be quite sensitive when it’s pulled really tight. However, if you go in there and if you suck on the clit gently in the beginning and then you can build up pressure over time, many women absolutely love this.

There’s toys out there that are specifically designed to mimic the sucking of the clit, and they’re some of the most popular toys for women. And while you might not be able to compete with the toy for how good it is and how much pressure it can apply, sucking her clit can give her a lot of pressure, and there’s many different ways that you can do it to increase or decrease the intensity.

While you’re sucking her clit as well, you can also move your tongue upwards and downwards, left and right or in circles, moving her clit around the center of your tongue, and this can feel incredible for many women.

Generally speaking, I like to start really slow with my tongue. If I’m sucking her clit and I’m licking it with my tongue backwards and forwards, I’m not going in there and flicking it straight away, but I’m going slowly backwards and forwards or side to side or in circles, and I’m looking for her response to see what she likes best and going with that.

Then as she gets more aroused and gets closer to orgasm, then I can ramp up the speed and the intensity. But generally it’s a good idea to ramp up the pressure that you’re applying rather than the speed you’re applying first.

So start slow, and then if you want to get more intense, just increase your tongue pressure a little bit rather than starting to go faster, and then I just like to go faster as she’s getting closer to orgasm.

12. Pull Back The Hood Of The Clitoris

This tip is amazing for women who like their clitoris head stimulated directly.

What you can do is actually place your hand on the top of her pubic bone, so just below her stomach, just above her vulva. Place your hand flat and then pull it back a little bit up towards her stomach.

You don’t want to do it too much, as this can pull the skin quite tight, but do it a little bit and what you’ll notice is that as you pull it back, the hood of the clitoris will actually come up and the clitoris will actually poke out.

Now, depending on the size of her clitoris, it might poke out a lot, or she might have quite a small clitoris where it just pokes out a little bit, but you should be able to see the clitoris head start to poke out, and then you can stimulate the head directly with your mouth and with your tongue.

So what I’ll often do when her clit is exposed is that I’ll start to touch it really lightly with my tongue, and I’ll go backwards and forwards on her clit very slowly, gently and lightly in the beginning, or I might go up and down, or again I might do little tiny circles with my tongue on her clit. See what she likes, see how much intensity she can handle and what she enjoys, and then you can begin to ramp up both the pressure and the speed depending on how aroused she is.

But it’s really important here that you pay close attention to her body and her breathing and see if she likes it, because this is the most sensitive part of her body and there’s more nerve endings in this tiny little spot than in the entirety of a male penis. So you do need to be careful. It can get oversensitive and actually hurt them.

So something that I like to say if I’m really going to amp up the pressure and the speed is, “Tell me if this is too much.” So that way, if it does start getting too much for them, they feel like they have permission to say, “Okay, that’s too much, slow down.”

And then I’ll go back to pleasuring the entirety of her vulva, give her clit a bit of a break and then go back, but I’ll go back in a more slow and gentle way.

13. Mix It Up With Different Positions

More often than not, we’re going to be going down on her while she’s lying on her back. This can work really well and it’s a great position, but there’s so many different ways that you can mix it up to keep it exciting and to keep it enticing.

One simple thing you can do is grab a pillow and put that under her bum to lift her pelvis up, so then you don’t have to bend your neck as much. You can even fold the pillow in half to get her up higher. This can allow you to get lower on her vulva as well, or down towards her arse, without her having to really lift up or do much effort.

You can also grab her legs and push them up towards her shoulders to again raise her pelvis up, get her bum off the ground to give you better access. You can also move her to the very edge of the bed and you can actually be on the floor and you can go down on her there.

You can give her head in doggy style, which a lot of women really like and is going to give them a very different sensation. And you can also lick them when they’re standing up. You can come from front on and go down on her, or you can go from behind, get her to bend over like doing doggy style, and you can lick her from that position.

And of course you can also get her to sit on your face too. Getting her to sit on your face and to do that well is a whole other topic and something that I will cover in depth in my course on oral sex.

In the meantime, you can grab my free oral sex course, and when you sign up for the newsletter over there, I will let you know when new courses are available, and email subscribers also get discounts on courses when I launch them.

14. Lick Her Ass

Now, not every woman is going to like this, so you might want to communicate with her beforehand, but some women absolutely love this and it sends them wild.

There are a lot of nerve endings in the anus and it can feel incredibly good for them if you’re down there and if you’re licking it. It can be incredibly sexy and give them some amazing sensations, so if you enjoy it and they enjoy it, then don’t ignore the ass.

15. Some Women Love A Lot Of Pressure

This is a really good one. You see in porn this back and forth on the clit, and we’ve talked about that, but some women just like a lot of pressure on their clit.

You don’t necessarily need to move your tongue a lot, maybe in small amounts, but it’s applying a lot of pressure with your tongue, either on the clitoris head itself or on the shaft of the clitoris and the hood of the clitoris.

So what you can do is actually put your tongue over your bottom teeth and over your bottom lip and then just push into her clitoris in order to apply pressure to the area. The other thing that you can do is use your top lip and just above your top lip and push into the clitoris from there, and then you can always move your head backwards and forwards a little bit in order to create some movement.

Now, this can get quite painful on your lips and on your tongue, as lips can kind of dig into your teeth, but it can feel really good for some women.

16. Use Your Fingers

This one you definitely should be doing.

Don’t just use your mouth but use your fingers as well, and the combination of using your fingers and stimulating their G-spot while you’re pleasuring their clit can give them some of the best orgasms of their life.

I tend to like to add the finger towards the end as they’re getting closer and closer to orgasm, because it really creates a jump in intensity, but you can also use the finger in the beginning slowly in order to play with their G-spot and warm them up.

It’s up to you when you add the finger in, but combining the right fingering techniques with the right clit stimulation techniques at the same time can bring so many women to orgasm. And this is what I teach inside my free video on how to give women incredible oral orgasms.

So go ahead and click here to sign up for that free tutorial now, or if you want some more tips on how to eat pussy, especially as a beginner, then go ahead and read this article.