5 Ways To Guarantee Her Orgasm

Do you want to give your partner some mind-blowing orgasms? Do you want them having their eyes rolling in the back of their head, thinking, how lucky am I that I’m with this person? Well, in this article, I’m going to show you five different ways that you can guarantee her orgasm.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and I’m passionate about helping you be the best lover you can possibly be.

Now, when it comes to giving your partner an orgasm, every single woman is different. And the exact technique that you’re going to use to bring them to orgasm and the timing and the speed and the pressure is going to be different for every woman. But these techniques I’m about to share with you are the most consistent techniques for bringing most women to orgasm.

But if you really want to give your partner the best chance of orgasming, one of the best things that you can do is to communicate with your partner. Find out exactly what they like and find out how they usually orgasm or how they usually masturbate.

So open up this topic of conversation with your partner and talk to them and say, hey, I’d really love to learn how to give you more pleasure and maybe even bring you to orgasm. I was just wondering if you could let me know what sort of things do you like? Maybe you could show me how you touch yourself and how do you usually like to orgasm? Is it through clitoral stimulation or G-spot stimulation or through penetration?

And by opening up this dialogue with your partner, you not only find out how they’re more likely to orgasm, but you also make it easier to explore together because you’ve already had this conversation. So then when you’re down on your partner using one of these five techniques I’m about to teach you, you can get their feedback and you can ask them, do you like it harder or softer, faster or slower? And then they can guide you if they need to, but many times they won’t even need to do that.

It’s also really important that you build her up and get her aroused first. A lot of the techniques that I’m about to teach you will work with most women, but they’re not going to work if you just go straight in there and try and do it really hard, really fast, before she’s even turned on and before she’s aroused. So make sure that you’ve taken the time to build her up, taken the time to tease her, get her really wet and really ready for you and then go in with these killer techniques.

1. Clitoral Orgasm

Now this is going to be the way that most women experience an orgasm and it’s also going to be the most consistent way to bring women to orgasm. Even though I can give my partners lots of different types of orgasms, the clitoral orgasm is how they will orgasm most of the time.

So it’s really important that you understand how to find the clitoris and I’ve got an article showing you exactly how to do that if you don’t know how to do that. But know how to locate it and make sure you take your time approaching the clitoris.

Don’t just go straight in there hard and fast, but rather lick her entire vulva or play with her vulva with your hands and then work your way up slowly to the clitoris, getting her to squirm and to crave you. And you can touch around the clitoris in the beginning without touching it directly. And all of this is building up blood flow in the area. It’s building up her arousal and anticipation. So when you do touch it, it feels really good.

And then when you finally do touch the clitoris, don’t try to give an orgasm straight away unless she’s already super aroused. But what I like to do with my partners is take them through waves of pleasure. So I’ll start slow and then I’ll build it up and then I’ll drop it back down again and then I’ll build up the intensity again, maybe drop it back a bit more, build it up. And then when I can tell that they’re in a really pleasurable state and they really like something that I’m doing, then I’ll go ahead and continue to do that until they orgasm.

So I’ll use different techniques to take her through these waves of pleasure. And then towards the end, I’m going to use a consistent technique in order to bring her to orgasm.

Some of my favourite techniques to use are going up and down with my tongue. And I tend to use the middle part of my tongue more than just the tip of my tongue. And I’ll go from the middle of my tongue to the tip and back again. I’ll also use the side to side with my tongue. I might do what Erik Everhard calls a T-cross where I’m going up and down and then add in a little bit of side to side every now and then while keeping the same rhythm. This helps to mix things up and it stops the area from getting either numb or overstimulated.

Another thing that I love to do that can bring some women to orgasm is actually suck the clitoris or maybe suck and lick it at the same time, or I will use my fingers to pleasure the clitoris and bring her to orgasm with my fingers.

And there’s one technique that I find is the most consistent at bringing women to orgasm on a regular basis. And if you want to learn the ins and outs of that technique, then I’ve got a free advanced tutorial which you can get access to. Head over there to get all of the details on exactly how to do that and that will also sign you up for my email newsletter where you’ll get regular tips on how you can be the best lover possible and give more pleasure to your partners.

You can also use toys on the clitoris as well. So if you’re finding it hard to give your partner orgasms with your mouth or with your hands, then go ahead and feel free to use toys. I would much rather my partner have multiple back to back orgasms while we’re using toys together than her not orgasm because I refuse to use toys in the bedroom.

2. G-Spot Orgasm

To do this, you’re going to want to pleasure the G-spot which is located about one to two knuckles inside her vagina and then up on the roof of her vagina. Now similar to the clitoris, the G-spot prefers to be touched when it’s fully aroused. So if you go in there, you try and go hard and fast on the G-spot when she’s not aroused, it’s not going to feel really good and you’re not really going to be stimulating the G-spot anyway because it needs blood flow in the area for it to push down into the roof of the vagina so that you can really pleasure it.

With G-spot orgasms, what I like to do is use one finger and go inside and I’ll warm my partner up with the come-here motion. So I’m doing a come-here motion with my fingers and then as she enjoys that and gets more aroused, I might build up the speed or even the pressure of the come-here motion, or I will actually shift my technique and I’ll lock my finger in place and I’ll move my arm back and forth and I call this the draw out method.

Sometimes I can give my partners a G-spot orgasm with just one finger, sometimes you’ll want to use two fingers, sometimes if they really like it you want to use more but you need to be really careful if you’re going to go ahead and do that. Usually one finger or two fingers is going to do the trick.

Again, like with stimulating the clit, you might want to take them through waves of pleasure and then as they build up and get closer to orgasm, you want to be very consistent with it and don’t give up. Even if your hand gets tired or your arm gets sore, keep going until they orgasm.

3. A-Spot Orgasm

Now the A-spot is located further back inside the vagina near the cervix and the A-spot is actually the muscle that’s attached to the cervix. So when she has an orgasm, these muscles around the cervix are going to contract and by stimulating that muscle directly, you can induce an orgasm in your partner.

In order to do this, you’re going to want to go inside them. You’ll likely want to use your middle finger because you’re going to need to go a fair bit deeper. You’ll go inside them and you’ll likely be able to feel the cervix which is kind of like a little donut shape and then you either want to go above the cervix and stimulate the area there or if your finger is flipped around, you can go below the cervix and stimulate there.

I’ve had more success giving women A-spot orgasms going above the cervix with my finger but different women like different things so try both and you can also stimulate the A-spot through their anus as well.

4. Anal Orgasm

Now when women tell me they don’t like anal, I tend to ask them, have you ever had good anal? And those women are likely to say no, because anal orgasms honestly look like some of the most intense orgasms in the world. I’m really jealous of some of the anal orgasms that I’ve seen women have and I’ve been with women who actually prefer anal sex over vaginal sex because it feels better for them and the orgasms are more intense.

Now you can give your partner anal orgasms by using your fingers, however I’ve personally found that anal orgasms tend to happen easier during sex and it also seems to be more effective when there’s clitoral stimulation involved, so that might be them being on top of me in the cowgirl position and rubbing their clit against the bottom of my stomach or we could be doing similar grinding in the missionary position or they could be using toys on their clit. You don’t need to have clit stimulation in order to have an anal orgasm but for some women it can really help.

5. Squirting Orgasm

Most women have experienced a clitoral orgasm, some women have experienced a G-spot orgasm, but not that many women have experienced squirting orgasms, so if you can give that to them they’re going to absolutely love you for it.

Now the squirting technique is similar to the G-spot stimulation technique but it’s a little bit different. Instead of doing the come-here motion with our fingers (generally I’ll use two fingers), I’m going to lock my fingers in place. When we’re doing the come-here motion you’ll notice that my fingers on the outside are pointing up, so when we’re doing squirting I’ll actually point these fingers down, which is going to make the fingers inside her flatter. And rather than trying to stimulate with my fingers, I’m actually pulling up and down with my arm. So what you do is you’ll go inside her and then you’re going up and down with your arm.

Now in order for her to squirt she needs to be at maximum arousal and she needs to have been aroused for a period of time. While some women can do it, it’s very rare that you’ll be able to make a woman squirt straight away. There’s also a bit of nuance to the technique and exactly how to position your wrist and your fingers and you can move your fingers a little bit and body position plays a huge role as well.

If you want to learn everything there is to know about how to make your partner squirt I do have a course where I take you through exactly how to do that. I show you the ins and outs of the technique, exactly what to do with your hands and your fingers and your arms as well as the best positions to make someone squirt for the first time. If you want to learn to make your partner squirt then go ahead and sign up for that course and give your partner an orgasm she’ll never forget.