How To Finger Her Pussy Like A Champ (Beginner’s Masterclass)

If you’ve never fingered a girl’s pussy before or you want to get better at it, it can be a very daunting task to think, how am I going to learn to do this if I don’t have a partner?

In this article, I’m going to show you everything you need to know to be able to finger a girl’s pussy, give her some amazing pleasure, even if you’ve never done it before.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and I still remember the first time that I fingered someone. I had no idea what I was doing at all, but luckily she was great and she showed me and taught me what to do.

And over the years, I’ve learned many tips and tricks and many of the things that you should do as well as the things you should definitely avoid. And in this masterclass, I’m going to share it all with you.

I’ve got some diagrams here to help to show you how to finger her and we’ll talk through different techniques.

Her Vulva

Now, unfortunately, I can’t show you a real vulva here. So you’ll have to use the diagram below.

But if we look at her vulva, what we’re going to have is on the outside, we’re going to have her outer lips. And then on the inside, we’re going to have her labia or her inner lips.

Now, depending on the woman, these can vary in size from being very small, which is what you’re likely to see in porn, or they can be a lot longer. They can be different lengths to each other.

And then inside those inner lips, down the bottom is where you’re going to find the vaginal opening. This is where you’re going to put your finger or where you put your penis for intercourse.

And if you continue down below the vagina, then that’s where you’re going to find her anus.

Her Clitoris

Up the top is her clitoris.

Now, more often than not, the clitoris is actually going to be hidden by a flap of skin called the clitoral hood. This isn’t too dissimilar from a foreskin on a male.

What’s going to happen is this clitoris will actually start out smaller. And as she gets aroused, it will grow in size and get erect, much like how a guy’s penis grows in size when it gets erect.

The clitoris is also the most sensitive spot on a woman’s body. And in fact, there’s more nerve endings on this little spot than in the entirety of a penis.

Approach It From Her Stomach

So obviously when we’re fingering her, we’re not going to be standing at a table. We’re probably going to be lying down next to her or maybe we are standing up and kissing and you’re going to finger her standing up.

Either way, the way you’re going to approach it is from her stomach. You will slide your hand down and you’ll come over her vulva.

Now, a big mistake that a lot of guys make is that when they go to finger a girl, they’re just so excited to put their finger in straight away.

But what’s going to happen is over time, as she gets more aroused, she’s going to get more wet around her vulva and the whole area is going to fill up with blood. So women actually have just as much erectile tissue as men, but it’s just spread out over the entirety of their vulva.

So if you go down and you’re too quick to go in and you’re going hard really quickly, it’s not going to feel good for her. It’s likely going to be a bit dry and you might hurt her.

Tease Her

So a good way to start is to slide your hands down and begin to lightly brush and lightly touch the outside of her vulva.

Anticipation is one of the biggest tools in your arsenal and by teasing her and touching her lightly, you’re going to get her more aroused and more excited, which is going to bring blood flow into the area and mentally she’s getting prepared and ready and excited to have you slide your fingers inside her.

While we’re down here teasing, another thing we can do is to start to lightly touch the clitoris.

Now, the clitoris doesn’t really like being touched dry. You can go over the hood and maybe apply some light pressure with dry fingers.

But what I found that women tend to love a lot more is I’ll put some spit on my fingers and I’ll actually go down with spit and because it’s lubricated, I can slide over that area so much easier.

If you need help finding the clit in the first place, then go ahead and read my article on exactly how to find the clitoris where I walk step by step through exactly how to do that.

Make Sure Your Fingers Are Wet

So once we have her aroused and turned on and we want to put our fingers inside her, it’s very important that our fingers are wet.

Now, sometimes she will have enough lubrication herself that you can just slide in, but for a lot of women, she actually won’t. And so what you can do is lick either side of your finger so that it’s completely wet and then slide down to go inside her.

Two Ways To Enter Her

Now, there’s two different ways that I like to enter a woman.

If I’ve got short nails, which I do, what I can do is slide down with my wet finger down to her vaginal opening. And then what I can do is actually just press my finger and slide inside.

Once I’m inside, I can then play lightly with her vaginal opening, or I can go ahead and slide my finger all the way in.

However, if you’ve got long nails, then doing this as your finger goes in, your nail is actually going to catch on the bottom of her vagina and it can actually hurt her.

So if you’ve got nails, instead of coming down and pushing the pad of your finger and going in that way, what you want to do is actually go in nail first and then slide your finger all the way in.

So if we’re coming from the top down and we’ve got long nails, we want to go over the vagina. We’re going to hook our finger so that we can get our nail in and take your time with this because you really don’t want to catch on her vagina.

It can be quite painful, but we can use the tip of our finger, feel for her vaginal opening. And once you feel that you’ve got the right spot, then you can slowly go ahead and slide in.

Start Slow And Build Up

A big mistake that a lot of guys make is they slide in and they just want to finger fuck her straight away. Again, it takes time to build up blood flow in the area. It takes time for the area to feel really good.

So unless she’s already fully aroused and unless she already wants you so badly, generally I won’t go in and be super hard straight away. I like to start slow and build up towards that.

Play With The Vaginal Opening

Now, once we have our finger inside her, there’s a few different things that we can do.

Something that is extremely underrated and that a lot of guys don’t do is we can actually take our time while we’re here at the vaginal opening and play with the vaginal opening by doing small circles.

There’s actually a lot of nerve endings right around the opening, more nerve endings than you’re going to find inside the vagina.

And so play with this area with very small circles, softly at first. And then if you feel it start to relax and her get more aroused, you can start to make those circles bigger.

But in the beginning, generally I’m just going slow. I’m letting her enjoy the feeling of me there.

I can even slide in and then what I can do is slide out slowly and let my finger come out. So it’s kind of like I’m sliding out and then as it comes out, it’s going to close up and then you can slide back in again.

So that sensation of coming out and going back in, if you do it properly, can feel really good for her. Little things like this where you’re taking the time with her vaginal opening can make a huge difference to the experience that she has.

And this is just one of the many advanced techniques I teach over on my website. And for those who want it, I’ve got a free advanced tutorial where I show you how to give her amazing orgasms using your fingers and your mouth.

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Stimulate Her Internally

Once you’re inside her, you can begin to stimulate her internally. What I like to do is to just start very slowly doing the come here motion on the roof of her vagina.

So the G-spot is located on the roof of the vagina. It’s actually the urethral sponge. So her urethra that runs from her wee hole back into her bladder is covered with erectile tissue. And when that gets aroused, it actually pushes down into the roof of the vagina.

So if you go in straight away and you’re trying to push really hard to try and hit that G-spot straight away, chances are it’s not erect yet. And it’s not going to feel as good as when there’s full blood flow in the area.

So when I start, I like to start slowly unless she’s already fully aroused and I’ll stimulate the roof of her vagina by either doing the come here motion or I’ll do some different pressure points by applying pressure and then releasing it.

There’s a whole variety of G-spot stroking techniques. So go ahead and read the article that I’ve done on G-spot stroking techniques if you want to learn some more advanced techniques.

But really just simply pleasuring the roof of her vagina is going to feel really good for her. And then as she gets more aroused, then you can begin to apply more pressure and you can begin to add more speed as she gets more and more ramped up while you’re fingering her as well.

Use The Palm Of Your Hand

Another thing you can do is actually use the palm of your hand to push against the top of her vulva, which is where her clitoris is going to be.

So if the clitoris is up the top, we can go down, we can slide inside her and then we can use our hand to just hold the entirety of the vulva, but also apply pressure on the clitoris.

And then as we finger her, we can apply and release pressure with our palm, or we can even move our palm back and forth over her clitoris.

The Position Of Your Fingers

Now taking this approach, you’re already going to make her feel amazing and be better than most of the guys that she’s been with. But if you want to begin to take this to the next level, something more advanced is actually considering the position of your fingers on the outside of her vulva.

So what’s going to happen is if our fingers are pointed up, it’s going to give us a lot of pressure to push up hard on the roof of her vagina, which can really give that pressure point intensity and that can feel really good for her.

However, if we go ahead and switch our fingers to pointing down, so if her stomach’s on top, then our fingers are pointing towards her bum. When we slide in, we’re not going to have as much upward pressure, but we’re going to have pressure with the entirety of our finger.

So rather than being just one point that we’re hitting, what’s going to happen is we’re going to be able to pull up and down with our hand to apply pressure to the full length of her vagina.

And by pushing down as well a little bit, there’s actually a perineal sponge between her vagina and her anus. That is erectile tissue and that can feel really good too.

Start With Just One Finger

You always want to start with just one finger. Very, very rarely will you ever start with two fingers. And if you do, you’re more likely to hurt her. So unless you know that she wants it and can handle it, always start with just one finger.

But when she does get more aroused and more relaxed, she might be ready to take more fingers. Whether that be two fingers, sometimes even three fingers, but three fingers is going to stretch her a lot.

So again, don’t do that unless you’re very confident, she’s very relaxed and you know she can handle it. And if you do it, take your time.

Two Fingers

Generally, you’re going to want to use either your pointer finger and middle finger, or you’re going to want to use your ring finger and middle finger.

I personally find ring finger and middle finger is always what I’m using unless she’s in doggy style position and I’m coming at her from behind, then I’ll use my pointer finger. But most of the time I’m using my two middle fingers.

Now, when you’re sliding into her with your two middle fingers, you need to be careful because obviously this is a lot wider than just one finger.

So what you can do is take your ring finger and tuck it into the pad of your middle finger. You’re not going to be able to do it fully, just a little bit. So that way your nail is tucked away.

And then what you can do when entering into her is you can slide in nail first and then your second finger will just slide in as well.

As always, make sure that your fingers are very wet. So lick the front and the back before you go ahead and do this.

Two fingers is going to allow you to add more pressure. And as you ramp her up towards orgasm and things get harder, I personally find that two fingers is a lot easier and more sustainable and feels better for her than just one finger.

And if you’re trying to bring her to orgasm, a lot of the times you’re going to want to stimulate the clit as well. And in my free tutorial, I show you exactly how to do that.

That’s a bit out of the scope of this article, but it’s a very effective technique that you can use to bring women to orgasm, or you can do it slower just to make them feel really amazing.

Three Fingers

If you are going for more than two fingers and that’s something that she wants, then you’re going to want to really take your time here, really communicate with your partner because you can tear them quite easily using three fingers.

But assuming that she wants it, assuming that you’re communicating with her, if you want to enter her with three fingers, again, we’re tucking our nails away.

So we’re going to use our pointer finger, our middle finger and our ring finger, bring them all in together. And then middle finger first, nail first, slide in and then slide the other fingers in.

Again, here you want to make sure that your fingers are completely wet. So use lubricant or use a lot of spit. So your fingers all the way down on all sides are completely wet.

Now, as you slide inside her and as you get just a little bit in, don’t go all the way in past your second knuckles straight away because you could tear her.

So go in slowly, see how she’s feeling, communicate with her, see what her body reaction is, and then you can slowly begin to go inside. Make sure that she’s relaxed and handling it. Talk to her if you need to: “How’s that feel? You’re doing okay?”

And then you’ll find that once you get past those knuckles, generally it’s okay. And for some women, this can be really amazing. But for other women, it can feel good at first and then it can start to hurt.

So if it does start to hurt, then pull out slowly and then go back to one finger or two fingers, or even just hold her vulva and apply pressure to it to calm her down if she’s really sore.

Get Her To Squirt

If you have the right technique and if she’s aroused enough, then you can actually get her to squirt using just your fingers.

This is definitely a more advanced skill. And if you’ve never fingered someone, I wouldn’t try to do this straight away.

But as you get more confident, it can definitely be worth learning because being able to give her those ejaculatory orgasms are unlike anything she’s going to experience. It can really make you stand out as a lover. It’s really sexy and it’s a lot of fun.

I’ve got a full course on exactly how to make a woman squirt, what fingers to use, how to move your fingers, what positions she should be in. So check out the course if you want to take the next step and learn how to do that.

Stimulate The Clitoris

Now that you’ve learned how to finger her pussy internally, it’s a good idea to learn how to stimulate the clitoris because combining that internal stimulation with the clit stimulation can really give her some amazing pleasure and give her some incredible orgasms as well.

So go ahead and watch this video on exactly how to give her clitoral orgasms.