10 Best Sex Positions To Help You Last Longer In Bed

One of the best ways you can last longer in bed is to choose positions where you’re less likely to cum. These are usually positions where you’re quite comfortable, where you have control over the rate and the speed of your thrust.

And they also tend to be positions where you’re either not going as deep inside your partner, so it’s not as intense for you. Or there’s less of a focus on the in-out penetration, which can feel really good for a penis and can make you ejaculate more quickly.

And there’s more of a focus on grinding, which can feel really good for her, but it’s not as stimulating for you. In this article, I want to share with you the 10 best positions for you to last longer in bed that you can try with your partner.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and I’m passionate about helping you become a better lover. And one of the best ways you can become a better lover is to last longer with your partner and have the sex last longer.

If you’re cumming really quickly, neither you nor her are really getting to enjoy the fullness of sex. These 10 positions can feel great for both you and for her. And by making the sex last longer, you’re going to have a better time together and she’s going to be more likely to orgasm.

1. Non-Penetrative Missionary

By this, I mean, you go in the regular missionary position where you’re lying down next to each other, but rather than having your penis go inside her, what you do is you actually point your penis down and you might need to shift your body a bit further up so that your penis doesn’t point inside her, but points down.

And then what you’re going to do is just slide your penis down and then rock your hips. So you slide up and down along her vagina.

So rather than going inside her vagina, you’re rubbing up and down. And this can feel very pleasurable for you, but it’s also very pleasurable for her because it’s going to rub down around her vaginal opening, but it’s also going to rub up and over her clitoris, which is the most sensitive part of her body.

To make this feel even better, I suggest you get some spit on your hands or use some lubricant so that when you’re rubbing your penis up and down along her vulva, it feels really good for both of you because neither the penis nor the clitoris really likes this rubbing when it’s dry.

This can be a great position to start sex in. It can really tease her and build her up while feeling good at the same time. And it’s not so stimulating that it’s going to make you ejaculate really quickly.

2. Missionary Grinding

Missionary position is one of the most intimate positions that you can have with your partner. It’s one of the most common positions that you’re going to find yourself in. And honestly, missionary position can be one of the easiest positions to cum from as a man.

However, the mistake that we make that can make us cum too quickly is that we focus on the in-out penetration in this missionary position.

With missionary grinding, what you’re going to do is you’re going to go inside your partner, and then you’re going to actually rock your hips so you’re going up and down. And the goal of this position is to rub her clitoris against your pubic bone area or the bottom of your stomach.

If you’re going in with your penis, the bottom of your stomach is going to press against her clitoris.

And what you want to do is lean forward a bit so that it’s really pressing, and then you’re going to rock up and back with your body to rub her clitoris against your stomach or your pubic bone.

And so if your penis is inside her, you’re going up and back. So you’re not getting the intense stimulation of in-out, which allows you to last longer.

And this is actually one of the best positions for women to cum in because they get that clitoral stimulation.

3. Stationary Doggy

Doggy style position is probably one of the positions you can most easily cum in as a man; something about that tilt of the pelvis and being able to stare at her ass just really can push you over the edge.

However, with stationary doggy, rather than you doing the thrusting, you stay still and you use your hands on her hips and you pull her forwards and backwards or you allow her to do the movements herself.

She’s likely to do a much slower movement than you might do by yourself in doggy style position, and this can help you to last longer.

And if you’re finding that she’s going too fast or it’s too intense and you feel like you might blow, what you can do is you can hold onto her hips, pull them into you and just hold her in place.

You can do a bit of that up-down grinding if you want or you can just stay in place with each other, touch her body, caress her back. It can be a very intimate moment and then you can continue with this position when you feel you’re ready or you can pull out and try one of the other positions.

4. Cowgirl

This is where you’re lying on your back and she’s sitting on top of you and sitting on top of your penis. There’s a lot of grinding that happens in this position that’s going to feel really good for her and it’s not going to be as overly stimulating for you.

When she’s in this position, you want to avoid her going up and down on your penis as that can cause you to ejaculate and instead you want to focus on a back and forth movement.

So, you want her to rock her hips back and forth, and like how in the missionary grinding position we were focused on rubbing our pubic bone against her clitoris, we’re doing the same sort of thing here.

So, if we lie down and we allow her to rock backwards and forwards with her hips, she can rub her clitoris against our stomach or our pubic bone area. To make it feel even better for her, you can take some spit and rub it on that area where her clitoris is rubbing against you or you can use lubricant for this as well.

And to take it to the next level for her without really taking it to a whole other level for you is you can actually put your hands on her hips or maybe on her stomach or her back and you can actually rock her back and forth to get more of that grinding action happening.

But what’s going to happen is if you’re inside her, she’s not going up and down on your penis, she’s just rocking back and forth. So, it’s not going to be as stimulating for you, but because she has control and it’s stimulating her clitoris, it’s going to feel really good for her and obviously you get an amazing view as well.

5. Reverse Cowgirl

Instead of her facing you while you’re lying down, you get her to turn around and face away from you.

It can be a bit tricky to get your penis inside her because her pelvis is pointed the other way to your penis.

So, she’s likely going to have to sit back a bit in order to get you inside her but then she can lean forward and again, she can rock back and forth, she can go up and down.

I personally find that reverse cowgirl position doesn’t feel that stimulating for me. Some women absolutely love it and I’ve had a couple of partners who love it.

Most women don’t feel a lot from it and it’s not the best position for them to cum but it’s a fun position that you can use that’s unlikely to overstimulate you and make you cum really quickly.

6. Spooning Position

This is a really great position because you can just lie down and cuddle each other. You’re going to be the big spoon, she’s going to be the little spoon and you can go ahead and slide inside her.

The good thing about this position is that it kind of restricts how deep you can go inside her. So, you’re not going to be able to get really deep inside her which can overstimulate a lot of guys.

This position also gives you free rein of at least one of your hands so you can touch and caress her body. You can even pull her head around to the side and you can kiss her in this position or you can kiss her neck.

It’s very intimate, it’s a very calm position and it’s a nice way to have some pleasant sex that’s not too intense.

One of the great things about the spooning position as well is that your hand is free to go around and to touch her clitoris and play with her clitoris. This can feel really good for so many women and for some women, they can actually orgasm from this.

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7. The Lotus Position

This is where you’re sitting up with your legs crossed or you have your legs out in front of you with your knees bent and then she’s going to go ahead and sit on top of you and then her legs will wrap around you.

When you’re in this position, it’s going to be very intimate and very tantric because your bodies are completely pressed up against each other. You can make deep eye contact with each other. You can kiss each other or you can kiss her neck.

Great position to be in to play with her breasts or to kiss her breasts. But you’re going to be limited in how much thrusting you can do in this position.

Because you’re sitting down and the full weight of her is on you, you can’t really thrust very much. So, it’s going to be a lot of grinding technique here which can feel good for her and it’s likely you’re not going to feel a whole bunch as the guy.

So, really great position to get that intimacy with your partner but to do it in a way where you’re just not going to feel too much and the focus is on the intimacy between the two of you, not the intense stimulation of your penis.

8. Sideways Facing Each Other

With spooning you are both facing in the same direction. In this position you’re going to be lying down facing each other and she can go ahead and put one leg over you and it can be a bit difficult but you can go ahead and get yourself inside her.

You’ll likely need to use your hand in order to guide your penis in in this position. But what you’ll find in this position is that you’re very limited in how deep you can get inside her and you’re quite limited as well in how fast you can thrust in this position.

Again, like the lotus position, it’s quite an intimate position because you’re really facing each other and because you’re lying down it’s a bit more of a calm position for both of you.

9. The Lap Dance Position

This is where you sit on a chair or you sit on the end of the bed and she faces away from you and she sits down on you like if a girl was doing a lap dance and she was rubbing her ass all up against you.

So, she sits down on your penis and you don’t really have much control here with thrusting or depth. Chances are you’re not going to go very deep inside her and she’s going to be the one who’s in control of going up and down.

She’ll likely want to have her arms against the bed to help support her but she’s going to be very limited as well in how fast she can go up and down.

I will just say that when you’re in this position I do like to keep my hands on the hips of my partner because sometimes women just really aren’t aware of how deep or shallow you are inside them and so in this position there’s a tendency for them to come up too far and then come back down on your penis as it comes out of their vagina and this can lead to some damage which you obviously want to avoid.

So, hold her hips, don’t let her go too high so you don’t end up with an injury.

10. The Standing Up Position

You can do this in the kitchen, you can do it against the table, you can do it even against the wall in your bedroom but have her standing up pressed against the wall or the bench and then lift one of her legs up and support that leg with your arm.

You’ll then likely need to use your hand or she can use her hand to guide your penis inside her and then you can thrust in this position. It’s a really sexy position to be in because it’s not one that you’re normally in and it doesn’t require a bed at all.

However, you’re going to be limited in how deep you can get inside her. You might have to bend your legs a bit as well to maintain this position which is not the most comfortable thing to do but all of this adds up to you being able to last longer and you being able to give her more pleasurable and diverse sex.

To learn more about the best thrusting techniques to help you last longer in bed but also to make her feel amazing and give her some incredible orgasms then go ahead and check out this article on the best thrusting techniques and don’t forget to download that free tutorial where I show you how to give her some mind-blowing clitoral orgasms.