Blowjob Tips Guys Wish You Knew

There’s some nuance and some lesser-known techniques that make the difference between receiving a good blowjob and a fucking great blowjob. Chances are you’re making at least one of these lesser-known mistakes, and learning from this can take your brain game to the next level.

This is part four in a series on blowjob mistakes, so go ahead and check out the playlist if you haven’t seen the other videos.

1. Not Touching Other Parts Of His Body

First, you’ve got the balls, obviously, and the perineum, or the skin between the balls and the bum. This is a really sensitive area for him and can feel really good when it’s touched.

The same with the bum: some guys like butt stuff and they enjoy having their bum touched and it can really amplify their pleasure. Some guys aren’t into it, so you will need to discuss that.

But other parts of the body almost always get ignored. Things like his chest and his nipples and his stomach. You can touch all of these areas while you’re giving a blowjob and it can just amplify things and turn it from a very localised pleasure experience to a full-body experience.

If he’s standing up, you could also cup and massage his bum cheeks or play with the back of his thighs. Touching his inner thighs always feels good and you can even hold his hands as well while giving him a blowjob, which can be a really intimate experience.

2. Not Teasing Him

Many women will go in for a blowjob and they’ll go in hard and fast straight away even when he’s soft. Like they’re in a rush to get him hard and to get it over with.

However, it can be an incredibly sexy experience and a massive turn-on if a woman starts by taking her time with you and teasing you. And this can even happen before you’re in bed, before his pants come off.

You can be teasing him throughout the day, telling him you can’t wait to have him in your mouth later tonight, maybe rubbing him under the table and saying, “I can’t wait to taste you later.”

If a man has a woman that says stuff like this to him, he’s so excited because not only does he know that he’s going to get a blowjob, but he knows that she’s really excited about it and it’s such a turn-on.

And then when it gets to the moment, you can tease with your hands in the beginning, rubbing on the outside of his clothes or the outside of his underpants. And then you can do light, feather-like touches on his penis or on his balls. And you can also tease him with your tongue by licking him up and down his shaft or gently playing with the head of his penis with your mouth.

You don’t want to tease for too long because it can get annoying if it goes on for too long. But if you notice that he starts thrusting his hips and moving his hips, generally that’s a sign that he’s ready for more.

3. Not Using Your Tongue In Interesting Ways

The best blowjobs give a variety of different feelings and experiences and your tongue can give some really amazing pleasure that simply sucking the penis doesn’t give.

Men have something called the frenulum, which is located on the underside of the head of the penis. And it’s this little bit of skin that connects the head of the penis to the foreskin if he has foreskin, but it’s also still there in circumcised men and it’s a really sensitive part of the penis.

You can lick that with your tongue, especially in the beginning when you’re teasing. That can feel really good.

You can move your tongue around when his penis is inside your mouth to really play with the head of his penis. And if he has a foreskin, you can actually put your tongue underneath the foreskin in order to pleasure the head of the penis.

Another amazing thing that some women do is you can stick your tongue out and if you can take him deep in your throat, then you can actually lick his balls while his penis is in your mouth.

4. Not Sucking Him After He’s Orgasmed

So many guys absolutely love it if you continue to suck them for a little bit after they’ve orgasmed.

Now, you don’t want to use the same speed and intensity that you’ve used to bring him to orgasm, because chances are his penis is going to be really sensitive at this point in time. But what you can do is really slow licks and slow sucks.

And not only does this feel really good on his penis, but it also feels really great for him emotionally and for his ego. Because if you continue to suck after he’s already orgasmed, he feels like you’re doing it because you love it, because you love his penis, and that makes him feel so good.

Very, very few women actually do this and whenever they do, it is such a treat.

5. Sucking Too Hard

This is a rarer one, but it does happen and has happened to me.

There’s the mistake that women make where they don’t suck at all and they’re just putting the penis in and out of their mouth with no suction. But if you suck too hard, then it can actually hurt his penis. And in fact, he can get blood blisters like a hickey on his penis if you suck it too hard.

So yes, you want to add in some suction, it’s going to feel better than without suction, but don’t suck too hard or then it can be painful.

6. Dry Butt Play

This is a less common mistake, but one that does come up from time to time.

Some guys absolutely love having their bum touched. There’s a lot of nerve endings in that area.

However, I noticed that women, when giving oral sex, they’ll try and touch your bum, but the hand will be completely dry. And because as the guy you’re sitting down or you’re lying down and your butt cheeks are together, getting in tends to pull the skin in weird ways and doesn’t really feel very good.

To solve this, it’s really simple. If you’re going to do butt play while giving oral sex, just make sure you spit on your finger or put lube on your finger so that when you’re down there, it’s wet and it feels so much better.

7. Giving Up Too Quickly

Look, I get it. Your jaw can get sore and tired when you’re giving him a blowjob.

However, the more that you do it, the less sore it’s going to get. So if you push through, those muscles are actually going to get stronger. And you also want to focus on really relaxing your jaw so it’s not hurting as much.

If you really need a break, then you can come out and continue giving him a handjob while you’re licking him, or you can give him a handjob and just suck on the tip of his penis so your jaw doesn’t have to be fully open, but you’re just using your lips.

But I can’t tell you the amount of times when it feels really good, you’re getting really close to orgasm, and then all of a sudden she just gives up because her jaw is a little bit sore when you are very close.

A good way to solve this is to communicate with your partner and get him to tell you when he’s close, because generally, your jaw is going to get sore right as he’s really close. And if he can tell you, “I’m about to cum,” usually you can push through the pain and you can finish the job.

To learn more about how to give better blowjobs, go ahead and check out my Better Blowjob Playlist.

Otherwise, head over to my website at passionately.com. I’ve got a bunch of free resources over there that are going to make you a better lover. There’s things on how to dirty talk with your partner, how to give oral sex, and there’s more advanced courses as well to really up your bedroom game.