The 4 Best Positions For Anal

When you’re having anal, some positions feel way better than other positions, and getting the right position can often be the difference between having some of the most mind-blowing, amazing anal orgasms of your life and having extremely painful anal where you want to curl up in the fetal position because it hurts so badly.

When it comes to anal positions, you’ve got your starting positions and then you’ve got your orgasm positions. Sometimes these positions are going to be the same, and changing between positions can be quite difficult for some people because they don’t want the penis to come out of their bum at all.

But if you can come out or if you can shift between positions while staying in, you can then start in one position which is going to be easier for them to receive it for the first time, and you can finish in a position where they’re going to have more control and be able to orgasm.

When it comes to the starting positions, there’s four main starting positions that I’ve had success with.

1. Lying On Their Stomach

I’ve got no idea why this works because it doesn’t sound like it would be a good position for anal, and as a person with the penis giving the anal, it’s actually quite a difficult position in order to get your penis in properly.

Because erections tend to point upwards, if someone’s completely lying down, you’re actually going to have to grab your penis with your hand and point it down, and you’re also going to want to be slightly higher than you normally would be for vaginal sex. So you want your penis to be coming straight down, maybe down on a little bit of an angle.

So let’s imagine your partner’s lying down. When you have sex, you’re lying down and your penis just ends up in the right position and can go into the vagina quite easily.

But when you’re having anal, you’re actually going to want to move your body much further up and then you’re going to want to hold your penis and push it backwards so you’re pointing straight down.

This way you can aim directly for the hole and you can go in that way, and once you’re in, you can let go of your penis and allow it to slide in more naturally.

This position is also really good because the person receiving can use their hands to spread their cheeks, and it does give them a little bit of control where they can arch their back to lift their bum closer to you to push further inside, or they can clench those bum cheeks and thrust the hips forward into the bed if it’s going too deep too quickly.

This is also a great position because once you’re inside, the person giving can lie down on their partner, which is very intimate. They can semi-support their weight with their arms so they’re not squashing their partner, but it’s not a strenuous position to be in.

So you can really take your time and you can start to do those micro thrusts that I talked about in my article on how to do anal so that it’s not painful.

2. Doggy Style Position

I would say doggy style is the second most popular way women have liked to receive anal from me, and doggy position is really good because it gives both of you control.

So the person giving can control how deep they go in, but also the person receiving has a lot of backwards and forwards movement. So they can actually get the giver to just stop and stay still and they can slowly back up onto them, or they can pull away if they need to.

If the giver is going in too quick, you’ve got a lot of movement so you can pull away.

I do suggest that you communicate a lot, especially when you’re doing that first anal penetration, and as the receiver, you can also use your hand pushing it on your partner, letting them in slowly, and then if it becomes too much, you can push back on them and that’s a really good cue for them to stop or to pull back.

Like with lying down, doggy style position can be difficult to get the penis in the bum because the bum is a bit higher than the vagina. As the giver, you’re likely going to want to get a bit above the bum and come down.

So I often find that as the giver, rather than just being in your regular doggy style position, I’ll actually get into a position where I lift one leg up. I might even stand up a bit on my back leg, and then what you’re doing with your penis is you’re pointing it down.

So rather than your penis pointing up, you’re pointing it straight down into the bum, and then you can slowly drop down into them.

Instead of that, the other thing you can do is the person receiving can drop down. So the way that they can do that is they can spread their legs apart so their bum drops lower. Otherwise they can rock back towards their feet and this can drop the bum down as well.

So the person giving can stay more in this relaxed position and then they can direct their penis directly into the anus.

3. Cowgirl Position Or Receiver On Top

For this, the giver lies down completely on their back, probably with their legs straight as well, and then the person receiving sits on top.

This can be really good because the receiver has a lot of control. In fact, they’ve got almost all of the control. The person giving can do a little bit of thrusting in order to push in, but it’s mostly the person on top that’s going to be doing the work here.

Now, if you’re the one receiving, you’re likely going to have to grab your partner’s penis to guide it into the right spot. They might be able to do it and hold it themselves, but chances are they can’t really see where it is. So you need to work together to make sure you’re going in the right way.

As always, lubrication is key here.

Another thing you can do while you’re on top to make this easier is you can spread your cheeks apart, or your partner can spread your cheeks apart, in order for the anal to happen more easily.

4. Missionary Position

But this isn’t missionary position where you’re both lying down. The giver is going to want to be on their knees, kind of sitting back towards their feet.

And I would generally recommend that the receiver actually put a pillow underneath their bum, or you might even want to fold the pillow in half to really raise the bum up. And then you might want to lift your legs back as well to really raise up that pelvis to make the angle of entry better.

From personal experience, this is the position that I use least when starting anal sex, but I had done it successfully in the past. And some people do like it.

Best Positions For Finishing

Once you’re inside your partner and you’re having anal, if they’re feeling comfortable, the whole world of positions really opens up to you, depending on how much they feel comfortable changing positions, whether you’ve got to come out of them or not.

But honestly, I find the four starting positions also great positions for finishing, but in different ways.

The first position with the receiver lying down is a great position for finishing for the giver. In this position, the giver’s got all the control; they can thrust in and out quite easily. And if they want to have an orgasm, then this is a great way to do it.

However, this position doesn’t tend to be the best position for orgasming for the receiver, mainly for the reason that it’s difficult for them to touch their genitals at the same time. For a woman, it can be difficult to get her hand down there while she’s lying down or to fit a toy down there. And for a guy, he can’t really masturbate while he’s lying down on the bed.

I tend to find the best position for the receiver to orgasm is going to be one of the other three positions.

For women, I find cowgirl position with the receiver on top to be the position where they tend to have those mind-blowing orgasms that I talked about at the start. And I think this is because when they’re in this position, their clitoris and their vulva can rub up against your stomach and your pubic bone.

So what I like to do in this position is get some spit or get some lubricant and I’ll actually put it down there. And rather than focusing on in-out thrusting of the penis inside the bum, we focus on this back-and-forth grinding.

So if my partner’s on me, then they’re moving backwards and forwards; they might add a little bit of circles or side to side in there. And what’s happening here is their clitoris is rubbing up against your stomach and it’s getting stimulated. So they’re getting stimulation from the anal and from the clitoris, and this can give some incredible orgasms.

In this position, the receiver also has full control so they can do exactly what they like and what feels good, or the person giving can grab their hips, and sometimes I’ll amp up the pressure and amp up the speed of their grinding to push them over the edge into orgasm.

And then doggy style and missionary positions are both great positions where both the giver and the receiver can orgasm. Both of these positions give good access to the genitals so you can stimulate your genitals while you’re receiving anal sex.

But doggy style position can be a little tricky because you’ll likely need to kind of lie down on your face and your chest to free up one of your hands to touch yourself or use a toy on yourself. I’d say missionary position is probably a bit of a better position for the receiver to stimulate themselves.

And the thing that I love about missionary position is as the giver, you can see everything with your partner and you’ve got really great access to their genitals to play with them.

If it’s someone with a penis receiving, you can actually masturbate their penis as you’re having sex with them. Or if it’s someone with a vulva receiving, you can hold a toy on their clitoris while you’re giving them anal, or you can actually put your fingers inside their vagina.

It’s a little bit tricky to get your hand in the right angle and it hurts your wrist a little bit to do it, but you can penetrate them with your fingers in their vagina while you’re giving them anal. And then they can be pleasuring their own clitoris or you can have a toy on the clitoris. And adding all of those things together can create some incredible orgasms.

To learn more about anal sex and how to make sure it feels really good and it’s not painful, go ahead and check out this article that I’ve done on how to have pain-free anal sex.

Alternatively, head over to my website at passionately.com where I’ve got a whole bunch of courses on how you can be the best lover possible. And in future, I will have a course on butt play and anal so you can have some of the best anal sex of your life.