10 Dirty Things Women Secretly Love In The Bedroom

Have you ever wanted to get a little nasty, a little freaky? I’m going to let you in on a little secret. So many women love it when you do things that are a little dirty and a little nasty, and it just gets them off on a whole other level than your run-of-the-mill vanilla sex.

But what exactly are these dirty things that women like? And how do you go about doing it in a way that they’re like, fuck yes, not in a way that they’re like, what the fuck are you doing?

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, coach and educator, and I’m passionate about helping you be the best lover you can be. And sometimes that requires stepping out of the box and getting a little bit nasty.

Now, it goes without saying, but I’ll say it anyway. If you’re going to do any of these things with your partner, consent is key. Consent is required. Don’t go doing this shit if they’re not into it.

No means no, but you’ve got 10 things on this list. They’re likely going to love one of them, if not multiple things. And if you do it properly, many women absolutely love this stuff and they just get off on it.

1. Ass Play

There are so many nerve endings in the anus, and if you go down there and play with her ass and you do it properly, she’s going to absolutely love you for it, and it can give her some of the most amazing orgasms.

Now, I’m not talking about you going down there and sticking your dick in it dry, because many women have terrible experiences of ass play, where a guy has pushed too hard, and honestly, I don’t blame them. It’s one of the worst feelings in the world. However, if you can do ass play properly, they’re going to love you for it.

Many women absolutely love to have their ass licked and played with, so when you’re going down on them, you can work your way all the way down and incorporate some ass licking into the oral sex that you’re giving your partner.

You want to make sure that you’re already giving them great oral sex and they’re in this state of pleasure because you’re so good at what you do, and if you don’t know how to do that yet, then I’ve got a free advanced tutorial where I show you the best and most consistent technique to bring many women to orgasm. To get access to that and learn those techniques, go to passionately.com/oral and learn exactly what you can do to begin getting her off, because you don’t want to be going down on her and she’s not really enjoying it and then you lick her ass because she’s going to be like, oh, what are you doing?

But if she’s in a pleasurable state and you add this into it, then it can feel so good for so many women. You can also lick their ass while they’re playing with toys and have a toy on their clit. Many women love that, or you can use your fingers to play with her bum when you’re going down on her or when you’re having sex with her.

I’ve got a great video on rimming and licking ass as well as an article on how to finger ass properly. So go ahead and check them out if you’re interested, but a little secret as well. If you do ass play properly with licking and fingering her ass and she’s orgasming while you’re doing it, the chance of her wanting to do anal and the chance of anal feeling good for her skyrockets dramatically.

2. Sex In Public

So many women love to get a little bit freaky in public. They love the adventure of it and the fact that you might get caught. Whether that be a quickie in the toilets at a bar or a club or maybe having some sex in the national park or it could even be just being a little bit sexual.

You could be at dinner with your partner and slide your hand slowly up her legs under the table and touch her under the table. Even something as simple as being out in public and pushing her up against the wall and making out with her and running your hands all over the outside of her clothes can send many women wild.

3. Talking Dirty To Her

So many women love it when you talk dirty to her in the bedroom. And an interesting thing about talking dirty is that many women love the exact same thing to be said every single time. Maybe not in the exact same way, but a similar sort of thing. Maybe they like being called names and they want to be your little slut or your cum dumpster.

Something that I found is that many women love it when you tell them dirty stories while you’re having sex with them. Tell them the nasty things that you want to do to them and how fucking hot it is, how sexual they are, or find out specifically their desire and the thing that they like to hear and tell them that.

Maybe they love being cum on and you can just tell them about how excited you are to cum on them. And many women can orgasm from this. Find out exactly what dirty talk they like and do that to them.

4. Being Dominated

Many women love it when a guy is dominant with them. That can be throwing them around the bed and taking control. That can be fucking them really hard. Or it can be things like dirty talk and it can be more dominant things like spanking, pain, ropes, bondage.

Women love it when you bring that masculine and dominant energy into the bedroom so that she can just completely let go into the experience. She doesn’t have to think about anything and she can just go along for the ride.

5. Spanking And A Little Bit Of Pain

A little bit of pain (or for some women, a lot of pain) can feel really good, especially in those heated moments where you’re having really passionate sex. And one of the easiest ways to start with impact play and pain is to start by spanking her and seeing how she likes it.

You can start spanking really soft and seeing what her response is and then slowly you can amp up the speed and the intensity and how hard you hit her based on how she’s responding and how much pain she actually likes.

I do think if you’re going to be exploring pain, start really slow, but also have conversations outside of the bedroom and see if this is something that she wants to explore and also have a safe word as well that she can say, which means stop and take care of me because this has become too much.

But many women fucking love a bit of pain. They love being spanked. You can get out the whips and the paddles, but obviously consent is really, really key here and good communication and trust.

6. Choking

Now you need to be really careful with choking because many women really don’t like it. So this is something that you’re going to want to communicate with your partner before you go ahead and do it, or if it’s with someone and you haven’t had the chance to communicate it, you want to take this really slow and gauge whether they’re into it or not.

So don’t go straight in and choke them straight away, but maybe you can bring your hand down near the bottom of their neck and you can rest it just on the bottom of the neck without applying a lot of pressure. If she’s really into choking, what a lot of women do is they’ll take your hand, they’ll grab your wrist and they’ll push your hand against their throat, letting you know that, yes, they really like this.

Now, if you’re going to be choking your partner, you want to do it properly because obviously there are risks associated with this and you don’t want to crush their windpipe. Learn how to do choking properly and there’s a lot of great videos out there that will teach you that and when you’re doing it, be very in tune with your partner and watching your partner, making sure that they’re okay and that they’re not passing out.

Generally, when you’re doing choking, they’re still going to be able to breathe, but it’s just going to be a bit more difficult for them and this restriction in breathing can create a heightened experience and there can also be a rush of blood flow to the head when you stop choking them, which can feel really good as well.

7. Make Them Work For It

Many women love being teased and they just absolutely gag for it. You can go down on them, but you can go all around their legs and not actually touch the good spots. You can get them begging for you to either give them your mouth or your fingers or your penis.

You can get into that dominant frame as well and you can tell them that they need to wait or you can even get them to beg for it and by taking your time and by teasing them and by getting them worked up and really aroused, they’re going to get so much wetter than they would otherwise. They’re going to have so much more blood flow in the area and when you finally do pleasure them, everything’s going to feel so much better.

So don’t just always be in a rush to have intercourse or even go down on your partner. Sometimes tease them and make them work for it. So when they do receive it, it’s incredible.

8. Cum On Them

Many women absolutely love it when you explode your load all over them. This could be all over their stomach and their chest. It could be on their face as well. Some women love it when you cum on their face. Obviously, there’s many women who don’t.

So again, you’ve got to communicate with your partner about this, but you can make this a really exciting experience by pleasuring her, building her up, doing the dirty talk as well, letting her know that you’re going to cum on her and how excited you are for it.

And then when you cum on her as well, she can be playing with a toy or you can be pleasuring her so she can really just enjoy it. And then when you cum on her, she might like it for you to rub that cum over her or maybe you can cuddle her and embrace her and rub your bodies up against each other. And many women absolutely love this.

9. Being Tied Up Or Restricted

Obviously, you need a lot of trust to do this. You should have conversations beforehand and use a safe word, but for her to be tied up and out of control and you being able to do what you want or to give her as much pleasure as she can handle can just blow some women’s minds.

10. Playing With Your Ass

Yeah, that’s right. Many women absolutely love it when they get to play with your ass and this can be absolutely great for you because it feels amazing. There’s so many nerve endings in your anus and I’ve known so many women to get off on licking guys’ asses and rimming them or fingering them as well.

And no, doing bum play is not going to make you gay. Not like there’s any issue in that anyway. You’ve just got a lot of nerve endings down there and your prostate is in your bum as well. And if she can pleasure that, you can have some of the most unique orgasms of your life.

And if you enjoy ass play and she can see that you’re getting a lot of pleasure from it, she’s going to absolutely love doing it. And it’s one of those nasty things that she’s going to be so excited that she gets to do with you because she’s unlikely to do it with many other guys that she’s been with.

So there you have 10 dirty things that girls love it when guys do. Do you know of any other dirty things that women love? I’d love to hear about your experiences.

Otherwise, go ahead and check out this video on rimming and ass play and how you can give them some amazing pleasure while licking their ass. And don’t forget to go ahead and get access to my free advanced tutorial on how to give her some of the best orgasms of her life.