Dirty Talk For Beginners: Easiest Techniques

A lot of people absolutely love dirty talk, but for a lot of people, it can be really intimidating or difficult to actually start doing dirty talk with their partner.

How exactly do you get into it? What exactly do you say? Well, in this article, I’m going to show you the easiest way to start dirty talking with your partner.

Hey, I’m Phoenix Blake, sex coach and educator, and I’m passionate about helping you be better in the bedroom and give more pleasure to your lovers. And dirty talk can be a way to get them out of their head, to unleash their sexuality and can create some incredible experiences for both of you.

But how exactly do you get started?

Deliver Your Dirty Talk With Confidence

To begin with, when you’re delivering your dirty talk, you want to make sure that you’re delivering it with confidence. Don’t second guess yourself, deliver it with passion and also slow down and potentially even deepen your voice if you’re the man.

Think about how “How much do you want my cock in you?” sounds with different tonality. It’s the same sentence, but obviously, if you deliver it differently, it has a very different impact.

You can also make dirty talk even better by having eye contact with your partner. This creates an intimacy and passion. So, when you’re saying to them something like, “I can’t wait to be inside you,” your partner will feel that intensity.

Or alternatively, you can also whisper it in their ear, which can be really sexy. But just make sure that you’re delivering your dirty talk with confidence and don’t second guess yourself.

1. Start Making Noises

So many people, when they have sex, they’re completely silent and most people don’t like it when their partner is completely silent. It’s very difficult to know if what you’re doing is good, if things feel good for them, you can get in your own head and overall, it’s not as sexy as it could be.

If you’re not doing any dirty talk yet, start by making noises. Moan and groan and move your body to show that you love it.

Women absolutely love hearing men enjoy themselves and if you’re having sex with your partner, make noises to show them. “Yes, that feels so good. Oh, oh my gosh.”

2. Tell Your Partner What You’re Feeling

You can compliment her on what she’s doing, saying, “Oh my gosh, I love it when you do that,” or “That feels fucking amazing. Don’t stop.”

Or you can get a little bit more descriptive as well and say things like, “I love how your pussy feels wrapped around my cock,” “I love how wet you feel as I slide in and out of you,” or “I love your taste. You taste so sweet and delicious.”

As you can see, this isn’t any complex dirty talk with subdom, roleplay or degradation or anything like that. You’re just expressing to your partner the things that you’re enjoying and the things that you’re feeling.

Dirty talk doesn’t have to be difficult and if you’re finding this information useful, then you’re going to absolutely love my dirty talk cheat sheet where I give you some of the best lines that you can use with your partner to turn them on and to start getting that dirty talk happening in the bedroom.

To get access to that cheat sheet, simply go to passionately.com/dirtytalk. After going through this cheat sheet and practicing the lines in it, you’re going to be a dirty talk master.

3. Tell Your Partner What You’re Thinking

Telling your partner what you’re thinking could be compliments and things like, “You look so great in that position,” or “I absolutely love your boobs and they’re turning me on so much,” or you could talk about how you’re feeling, letting them know, “I feel so connected to you,” or “I feel so turned on by you,” or “I love feeling myself really deep inside you.”

But I think it’s important when giving your partner compliments during sex in this dirty talk kind of way that you’re not expecting a response from your partner. If you’re giving them a compliment and expecting them to say something back, they might be a little bit awkward and not know what to say.

So you’re delivering this compliment while you’re already in the action and they don’t need to respond to it. They can just enjoy hearing you say it as you continue to do whatever you’re doing and continue to give them pleasure.

4. Describe Past Experiences Or Her Fantasies

Remember, a big part of dirty talk is simply helping your partner get out of their head and to enjoy the moment by describing a past experience that you had together and saying things like, “I love it when we had sex that time, when we were on holidays and you were bent over in this position, it just felt so good for me and you looked so good.” And then, “I love it when you did XYZ.”

And what this is going to do for your partner is it’s going to help put them into their imagination, back into that sexy situation that you had together. And they can just listen to your words and imagine the scene playing out in their mind while their body’s being pleasured at the same time.

Or alternatively, instead of describing a past experience that you’ve had together, describe one of her fantasies. And this can be a really good way to actually explore fantasies that you may have without ever actually doing them.

Ideally, you want to talk to your partner ahead of time and find out some of the things that they like. But I’ve had massive success with creating storylines and fantasies while having sex with my partner.

If I know that they have a desire to have a threesome, maybe it’s with two guys, or maybe it’s with a guy and a girl, what I then do is I describe how that threesome might go and the different things that we might do together. I go into juicy detail of exactly what he’s going to be doing to her and what I’m going to be doing to her at the same time.

And again, you’re creating this fantasy scenario in their mind while they’re receiving pleasure from you. But if it’s a fantasy you know they already have, then this can lead to heightened levels of pleasure for them and some incredible orgasms.

For more tips on how to do this type of dirty talk, don’t forget to get access to my dirty talk cheat sheet. And if you really want to up your dirty talk game and learn how to dirty talk like a master, then go ahead and read this article.