This Is What Anal Should Actually Feel Like

Does anal hurt? Should it hurt a little bit or a lot when having anal? Is that normal, or is it meant to feel good?

No, anal shouldn’t hurt. If it’s hurting, you’re doing it wrong.

If I speak to a woman and I ask her if she likes anal, if she says no, I then ask her, have you ever had good anal? And the answer to that question is also likely no.

And if I say, have you ever had painful anal? The answer is probably yes.

But anal shouldn’t actually hurt at all. If you’re doing it correctly, anal won’t hurt.

Yes, you’ll likely feel a bit of stretching, but you shouldn’t feel any tearing, and you especially shouldn’t feel that big tearing or a searing pain. I’ve personally experienced this, and I know how intense and painful it can be. It caused me to want to curl up in a ball, and it was just horrible.

What Exactly Should Anal Feel Like?

If you’re doing it properly, if you’re going slow, and if you’re relaxed and aroused, and using a lot of lubricant, you won’t feel any searing pains or any heat, but you will feel a stretching of the area. You want to take it really slow when you feel this stretch.

What’s going to happen is, as your partner goes inside you, your sphincters are going to relax, but it does take time for them to stretch open and relax enough in order to receive a penis, especially if that penis has some sizable girth to it.

So you should feel a stretching, and it’s almost like the penis can’t get in any further because it’s too tight. But then you stay in this position, and you’ll notice that the sphincter can tend to relax a little bit more. The penis can go in a little bit further, you might reach that tightness again, and then you relax a little bit more.

You don’t want to push past this tightness, because that’s when tearing happens.

So little bit by little bit, you’re pushing in, relaxing, pushing in, relaxing, until you go all the way in, and then you’ll get this feeling of fullness.

And generally speaking, if you hang out in this position in the beginning for a little while, so once they’re all the way in, you stop, you don’t go straight to thrusting, you’ll notice that everything starts to relax, and it’s almost like your body starts to relax and receive it. You’ll have this feeling of fullness inside you, which can be very pleasurable, and you’ll likely notice some intense body sensations.

Receiving Good Anal

Receiving good anal feels different for everyone, but many people describe it as quite overwhelming. It’s difficult to describe because you not only feel it in the anal area, but you can feel these waves of pleasure going over your entire body, up your back, in your spine, up your chest, over your shoulders, up and into your head and your neck, making you arch your neck.

The feeling can be really intense, especially if you combine it with genital stimulation as well. So if it’s a woman or a vulva owner receiving the anal, then pleasuring your vulva with your fingers or with a toy can really amplify the pleasure.

And for a guy, you can masturbate, or you can use a toy like a Fleshlight on your penis, and it’s almost like anal makes everything that you usually feel just way better.

And while you can have orgasms from anal stimulation alone, and I’ve known people to do this, many people will have orgasms with anal and they’ll be pleasuring their genitals at the same time. And what you’ll notice is that these orgasms can be way more intense than a normal orgasm, and the orgasm can also feel like it’s all over your body rather than it just being localized to your genitals.

Anal absolutely shouldn’t hurt at all. It should feel really good, and if it’s hurting, you should go slower or you should stop and try again.

Not every day is going to be an anal day, and there’s lots of things that you can do to make sure that it’s not painful. So go ahead and read this article on how you can have pain-free anal.

And if you want to learn how to become the best lover you can be, then head over to my website at passionately.com. Over there I’ve got a bunch of free resources to help you, as well as detailed courses on how you can give your partner some of the best orgasms of their life.